Showing and giving

[Alice4417]

Worried first time mum !
I was with my friends baby today who was constantly bringing us items and handing them to us. She's 15 months. My boy is 13 months and doesn't bring us things or show us things. I'm now worried as I see this is an important skill as it shows joint interest. He does point at things of interest but not as regularly as some other children I've seen. Very good at waving and clapping. Has anyone else experienced this and should I be concerned?

At that age a few months is a big difference.

Added to that babies learn skills at very different ages with a massive range of normal (e.g walking 8 months to 18months is normal)

It is vital that you do not compare your child to others. They will learn in their own time the skills that interest them at that time.

Attend the child development screenings run by the Health visitors and see if they have any drop in sessions/written advice you can access. They will check your child's significant milestones.

I'd stop comparing to other children now or you'll end up torturing yourself. Your child might come later to some things, quicker to others. It doesn't matter.

Thanks I understand I shouldn't compare but it's still hard not too ! Xx

I understand I'm just worried he has missed an important milestone potentially?

I understand I'm just worried he has missed an important milestone potentially?

It doesn't work like that. Infant learning is not linear. He doesn't have to tick certain skills off by a certain age or never achieve them.

Comparing him to other children runs the risk of you viewing him differently. Just enjoy him for who he is. He's fine.

Stop comparing. In a few months when you have to squeal with joy at the 1000th random brick/apple/shoe he has brought over to show you will likely look back and smile at the memory of this thread.

What you're talking about is not a milestone.

Hi I think it's about joint attention which is a important milestone.

Agree with this. I have never even thought about whether my two have done this or not. I really would also recommend to not compare your child with others (I know that’s easy to say) but you will be constantly worrying for many years otherwise!

I have multiple dc. Never bothered with worrying about so called milestones and boodly centiles... Dc all managed to thrive and grow up accordingly...