since I stopped breastfeeding her at 22 months old, my daughter has preferred my husbands company.
i am the main carer, so he sees her after work each evening and weekends. I admit, he does play much more games with her than I do. I try, but can never quite match him, also there is tons to do in our house, which has mainly fallen on my shoulders. I am trying to address this right now, more of an even balance whilst keeping the place at least clean. My husband needs reminding to help out often - he doesn’t admit this, but I think he feels it’s my work and not his also.
He adores our daughter and she him. They are incredibly close. She says his name first thing in the morning and constantly wants him to brush her teeth, dress her, change her bum and any other task she needs help with.
When it’s just her and I it’s fine, great, I know she loves me.
but when it’s the three of us, I constantly feel on the periphery of their relationship, watching them interact and have fun whilst I’m on the outskirts.
my husband does try to involve me, but in all honesty he is so all encompassing with her - it’s difficult to penetrate and also she can then be quite dismissive and mean to me, hitting me, pushing me away and looking at me as if I had just burnt her favourite toy or something.
I really am struggling to cope with it.
we have been through a huge ivf battle to have our daughter, 10 years in the making, in the end we opted for a donor egg, using my husband sperm.
so stupidly, my mind plays tricks on me - telling me it’s because I’m not genetically related to her as he is.
im probably really over thinking this.
I just hope it’s a faze, because right now, it’s making me quite sad and a little lost.
if there is any advice or anything someone could offer, I’d appreciate it.