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Alyssa80 · 15/10/2024 12:25

Hi,
DD will turn 9 in a month and has no friend.
Never had one for more than a couple of months. She spent her first 3/4 years in school sitting alone during reassess and never being invited to any birthday party.
She used to cry a lot about it. I tried my best to help her but to no avail.

We moved last year and I thought it was a perfect opportunity for a fresh start and it was for like a minute.
At first she was so happy with her new friends both in school and in the neighborhood. But after a while the kids that used to come home to see her stopped coming, one after the other. Then she started complaining again about all the kids shunning her out in school but the worst part was yet to come.

She got invited by a classmate to her first birthday party ever.
She went but stole one of her friend’s gift. The girl’s mother sent a us a group text asking if any kid had taken the toy by “inadvertance”. So I asked DD about it and she admitted stealing the toy. I was mortified. I took DD back to their home, had her apologize and did so myself.
I was petrified that this incident would go around and build a bad rep for all of us and I was right.

Yesterday, DD told me she has started asking her classmates about her own birthday party. One girl told her point blank that her father doesn’t like DD and won’t allow her to come to her birthday party because she’s a thief.
All the other kids she tried to invite told her no.
Shes feels miserable and I don’t know what to do.
Ive tried talking to her teachers (past and present) got her into piano, Choir, dansa classes so she could socialize more. I send her to snow class and even went to a child psychologist.

please help

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TinyMouseTheatre · 03/03/2025 14:05

How is she now @Alyssa80? From all of the things you've said I think that getting her assessed for ASD would be helpful.

Things like not having the same interests as the other students, not being able to understand that wanting to dominate would put the other students off playing with her and her advanced speech could all be signs.

I'd have a read up on Hyperlexia and do this simple progress checker.

I'd also see if a book might help her understand friendships more? Maybe Friends: Making and Keeping Them?

TinyMouseTheatre · 03/03/2025 14:20

cocog · 03/03/2025 13:54

I really feel for you I currently have books on children’s friendships my son is also waiting for autism assessment! I feel he doesn't seem to have friends but he’s happy it’s just me that’s sad about it.
How would people suggest that a parent can correct bossy/dominating and rude behaviour I’ve been trying for 3 years with 6 year old daughter (may also need referrals) she also doesn’t seem to do anything asked such as go and brush teeth or please pick up those toys when finished. Not sure how to correct it? Sorry for jumping in but it seems the answer is of benefit to op too!

Has anyone suggested the possibility of PDA in regard to your DD?

The PDA Society website should give you some tactics to try.

What's stopping you accessing assessment at the moment? Flowers

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