Splitting up from partner, he wants me to draft a shared parenting order this week where we both set terms and agree. One of his is no step parent for our daughter until a certain age. At the moment she’s so young he acknowledges that she needs me at nights and most of the time (he also works so much at the moment anyway) but my concern is that in the future when she’s older he will use it to make my life difficult, because he can be really nasty and vengeful when he wishes . Ie, no trips abroad without his consent allowing him to say no to every time I want to take daughter on holiday, things like that.
I have real concerns about his parenting. Daughter found a few times sitting on top of our 16 steep stairs with stair gate open and partner elsewhere in the house when he was watching her. Hates those safety covers because it annoys him having to pull them into when he wants to plug something in. Could not figure out the car seat so took her out at one week old in an undone car seat, terrible diet of treats given to toddler when he has his way full of bars and sweets and fruit and not much else, barely knows how to work a cooker. It sends my cortisol levels through the roof imagining her with him for a few nights in a few years, living off of pizza, ice cream and non stop tv. And him saying he wants to take her abroad or he will say no to my requests, when I think he is so neglectful. Sorry for the tangent 😞