Potty training and nursery?

[Mammyyof2]

started potty training today. It’s looking positive as there was few accidents but it was methodnwith nothing on from waist down and obviously lots of asking did he needs a wee/poo - directing him to potty (tomorrow going to do with undies/pants on) etc I did a thread about the potty training

but he goes to nursery ,Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday. How do I go about this? I don’t want to feel confident at home then get to pickup and they say they’ve had to put a nappy on or he’s had loads of accidents etc like a regression?

I have to be in work Tuesday😭 I wish I could take last minute leave but I have a meeting in the office

I am hopeful he’ll be in the swing of it by then. But what do I do if I think he’s not ?

PS fully know he’ll have accidents at the start of this journey! I mean I don’t want to send him to nursery and feel confident then they say he’s had loads etc

Just unsure how to do it. I feel lucky I’ve got 4 day block (Friday, Saturday , Sunday Monday) to work on him with it! But just panicked as I can’t take Tuesday off and what if he needs the extra day

dont want to regress as he’s 2y9mo and showing signs of readiness. Want to utilise that !

Have you discussed it with nursery?
IME they are great, but only if the child is ready. I mean, they'll manage a few accidents, but they are unlikely to be able to do all the asking, extra taking to loo etc - they just don't have the staff to do so.

I wouldn't regard a bit of back and forth at this stage a regression, that's more when a fully trained child starts having a lot of accidents, usually in response to something (big life event, being poorly)

So when I spoke to his key person she said we say about 50% ? So I’m assuming that means actually trained but they can prompt, take to the loo , help with pants up down?

Yeah I’d just feel like I was regressing if we did good this eeekebd then he spends 3 days in nappies then it’s starting all over again next Friday? It’s so tough

i dont want to be a busy body but maybe I ring the nursery manager (who is fantastic and so lovely) Monday afternoon and ask? Depending on how he is. See what the 50% means

I worked/have worked in a few nurseries and this is a part of the job.

It depends on the nursery how you would deal with it. But all are meant to work as an extension of what you are doing at home (barring nakedness). This is sometimes really hard to do if they are short staffed.

There are usually 2 methods a lot of nurseries. First being timed potty/toileting, where a timer goes off after so long and either a child is asked or they are just told ‘potty time’ cheerfully. Or the other method where the child is confident enough to go themselves with a couple of random prompts. You can send then in a pull ups or send them in underwear. Either a potty or straight to the toilet.

If you send them, make sure you have a truckload of spare clothes - pants, trousers and socks and spare shoes (wellies are good because they are easily cleaned). You can’t send too much for the first few days. I would also be clear about what to do with poo accidents (some places send you home with poo stuck on pants if it doesn’t come off easily - might want to say to bin them if it happens).

There is almost always a regression, only because children are so distracted they don’t feel it, and then they also get a little grumpy when they are focused on their game. It gets easier over a few weeks. If they are ready.

Don’t worry too much - they are meant to support you.

Good luck OP.

We're at week 6. Started on a Friday afternoon (naked bottom half like you), Wednesday she was in nursery (so only 1 day sooner for you), no pants just trousers, but back to bare bum at home for another couple of weeks. Pants after maybe week 2.

Nursery took her frequently. They do 3 accidents and then into a nappy. She has been put into a nappy maybe 3 times, 1 of which was this week, when she's had many totally accident free days the last couple of weeks, and on accident days its usually only 1 proper one (the rest gets some on clothes whilst not sat on potty correctly or a little bit before pants are down but by the potty)

Yesterday she got put into a nappy, but then still took herself to the potty for a pee

Our nursery just said send him in with loads of changes and ideally some waterproof shoes like crocs. I'd have been annoyed if they'd put him in and out of nappies but do understand it from a workload side!
We're two weeks in and he's pretty reliable now so just takes himself off to use the toilet and sometimes calls his key worker to help

Eta- he actually went in the day after we started too! He saw some pants in the shop like his friend has and told me to get rid of nappies so we did.. wasn't ideal timing but worked out fine

Thanks everyone it’s so hard! Yesterday was 60% me asking him and him going, 25% starting off weeing then going to the potty and only 15% saying he needs a wee and toing

i know for day 1 that’s fantastic. Just hopefully nursery can prompt? As he’s in the older room where the new starters from younger room are potty training so they must be used to needing to take them at diff times. And I do remember at pickup a little girls mum said she was shocked she potty trained her as the little girl still wasn’t speaking (speech delay) so if they can help with a child who doesn’t speak they must be able to help in general when the child needs asking and isn’t always just saying (my nursery this is I know some have set rules etc)

Nursery will know what to do. They do this all the time. Just send in with about 8 changes of clothes as there will be a lot of accidents to start as it’s a new environment.

Yeah I think I’ll need to. We did bare yesterday and trying undies this morning at it’s 9.30 and since 7.30 he’s weed in 4 undies :( I think he just thinks somethings on.

is it normal he keeps going to sit on potty and not do anything ? And sometimes he says he’s done a wee and I check he hasn’t (cos he asks for chocolate button😂) it’s early days so I don’t know what’s normal what’s not

but this is why I want to practice with undies so it prompts him to say he wants the undies off / he needs porty

At nursery they are likely to use actual toilets rather than a potty, so part of your training at home has to include how to use a toilet, not a potty. Pulling up own pants and trousers is also part of it, so use lots of comfy, easy to pull joggers.

Yeah we’ve got a toilet seat and going to try today ! Nursery said at the start we can bring his potty from home in so may do that depending on how he takes to the loo!

it’s the undies he’s struggling he can pull them up but at the back they sit behind his bum and I help? How can I help there is it just constant practice xx

Also we are ditching the bribery as we go along haha!

I started potty training mine about a month ago when she was sent home from nursery with chickenpox, and we had a holiday booked the following week so figured we had a month's run before returning to nursery. We did bare bottom for about 5 days because we couldn't leave the house and she did really well. Then we went on holiday - more accidents, especially in the car, but got into the routine of a car wee at regular periods. No we're home she's pretty good at taking herself to the potty without announcing it, and can pull up/down her own trousers and pants.

She's been back in nursery this week - it's not been great....she's come home with approx 3 pairs or wet/soiled pants and trousers everyday. The feedback I'm getting is she's great in the morning when she's in the toddler room and I think they're really attentive and have regular toilet breaks. In the afternoon they join the pre-schoolers and spend a lot of time outside in their puddle suits so she's just preoccupied with what she's doing, and I don't think they ask as much. There seems to be 5/6 of her peers who are all at the same stage and the staff are supportive about not going back in nappies, so we're just rolling with it.

Yeah we’ve got some work. He did 3 wees by taking undies down (with my help) but it was me noticing he seemed to need one and asked him

he doesn’t tell me he needs one loads and just then he went with his undies on and just sat on the potty and weed through them :(

any tips

When you say, put him in a nappy, it doesn't mean they just do that and leave him, they will treat it as he's in pants and still get him to try the potty, it's just to contain the mess.

Does the frequency get less too? My worry is he’s still a bit frequent and I heard it lessens ! Just wonder how I help with this ?

Mine often only goes 5 or 6 times a day now, often with a 2.5-3hr gap