I'm so frustrated I could cry

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This will seem like I'm very lucky to a lot of you out there I'm sure but o just need to vent!

Tonight, my husband has pissed off out once again on a glorified all day bender 'networking' anyway my sister with her bf offers to come over tonight and do a really fun night with the kids making pizzas etc and look after all the kids (3) so I could go over to the toy shop and get the kids Xmas presents as I have no other opportunity to go and would prefer to go look at it all then online. Perfect. I'd get 2 hours to myself, of course shopping for my kids so not like a night out or meal out or anything but I was really looking forward to doing it in peace and I love looking at all the toys and imagining their little faces and with no husband in tow to tell me not to buy certain stuff.

Tonight comes, they're late, sister is over faffing with the recipe, very cute but end of the day just throw some toppings on and get it cooked kids haven't ate since 12 🤦🏻‍♀️ times ticking on her bf is given up already and on his phone, 1 year old is crying fed up, I have 1 hour to drive there when it takes me 40 mins to get there so I've run out of time. I end up faking with the kids and putting my youngest to bed\ she keeps apologizing which is lovely but f* just get on with it!

I'm so frustrated I stupidly let myself get a little excited at having 2 hours to myself and once again as I'm the default parent it all lands in me to sort shit out. Husband is t bothered he just winds me up more as he never has to sacrifice anything!!! I hope he stays out late tonight cuz I just can't be around him right now. I got to put up it's my sister faffing and apóloga by all night which will drive me mad.

I just want to go cry. It's not much to ask us it? 2 hours? I had given up on trying to do anything like this but as tonight was offered to me I thought yes lovely....how silly of me.

I'm so tired so frustrated so worn down.

No point to this just venting. I know there's a lot worse off ppl than me out there.

The problem is your husband, he's not an equal parent.

Take note and solve the problem. You should have left as soon as your sis got there. If someone is babysitting don’t do their job for them. And start building in time for yourself so you aren’t limited to two hours on e s quarter which you “spend” on family anyway. Start doing things for yourself.

Yeah you have a DH problem. Is there really no day between now and Christmas that we can have the children? Or is it that he won’t? If it’s the latter, you’re better off being a single parent.

It's October.. Get a grip op.

How can this possibly be your only two hours available to do all your Christmas shopping?

Your DH needs to step up OP.

Agree DH is the massive issue. Unless you are handing over actual babies I’d have swanned off the second your sister arrived. Agree that if this is literally the only time between now and Christmas you can shop that’s a) ridiculous and b) needs a big lifestyle adjustment as clearly that’s insane!

It's a bit bs you can't do Xmas shopping expect 2 hours in October?

Why are you together with dh if he doesn't support you? Why doesn't he step up? Why don't you ask more of him?

Your sister did her best I suppose.

What dies this mean? , I have 1 hour to drive there when it takes me 40 mins to get there.

Very annoying, maybe should have left as soon as they arrived but husband sounds even more annoying.

Agree that this all sounds crazy (and definitely not lucky as your OP suggests!?) Is there a back story here about why you won’t get any time between now and Christmas to go shopping? Presumably your husband lives with you? Doesn’t work 24/7?

Yeah cheers for this when someone is feeling it this sort of comment really helps.

Go any other time your H isn't at work?

Thanks for some of the replies I. Was just venting yes your right I should have just ran when she got here. Yes my husband is a selfish toser. Yes it's mad I only had this one time to go Xmas shopping that's not the case I'm hoping I may get another window at some point but it's so bloody hard trying to get out anywhere I give up now.

I was typing this pretty fast-type venting if you will 😂 so half of it probably doesn't make much sense, I just had to get it out there. I've had a few months of this sort of shit and tbh the problem is the husband because he can do what the hell he likes with no repercussions as I am the default parent. So yes I need to sort him out. But right now I'm just done. I want to go curl up and have a little cry then dust myself off and start again.

Thanks for letting me vent 👍🏻

Go out tomorrow. Pick up your bag and walk out of the door. Phone on silent, enjoy a break, shop, eat, get back when you’re ready.

Whilst I maybe not get the October shopping thing I get the feeling. I remember when my son was young I was supposed to go for dinner with friends but husband had a work call - even though he knew what time I was leaving - and youngest just wouldn’t settle without one of us so I had to stay home. I was in a right mood,
feeling very sorry for myself. I think when you get so little time to yourself the disappointment feels huge, disproportionately huge

This is exactly it. And stupidly let yourself get a bit excited.

I don't want to do Xmas shopping in October but this was an opportunity to so picked that option.

Haha definitely wasn’t judging! ( I have picked up an Argos catalog) But hopefully next time your sister offers to babysit you can have Some time just for you!