7 year old behaviour is getting worse

[Mummy2twooo]

my 7 year old daughter’s behaviour is driving me insane lately & I’ve noticed she is getting so much worse. It’s effecting school and home life to the point now I’m on countdown to when she goes to her dads for the weekend.
some of the things she does

• she talks horrible sometimes with such a bad attitude
• can be sarcastic
• at times, she can be very very rude
• will randomly scream in her sisters face for no reason
• has emotional outbursts
• cries everything single time she is told to do something (eg tidy room brush teeth)
• whines instead of talking
• jumps onto things like the sofa or up the stairs
• cannot follow simple instructions
• talks over people & interrupts conversation
• lies CONSTANTLY. Eg I see her hit her sister & she will lie saying she hasn’t done it

her sister is only 1 and I’ve noticed she is now picking up some things she does too. To some it might seem like normal child behaviour but it’s draining the life out of me & makes me miserable. a childminder picks her up from school as I don’t finish work on time & when I collected her I was told she’s been told off for running, jumping out of the door and knocking into another child, she did it twice!! when I asked her why she did it even after being told not to and to calm down she said she doesn’t know she’s doing these things.

im at my whits end, this has been going on for at least 5 years. Any advice? Tia

I have a 5 yr old and he is very similar, i struggled and it got me in a big mess, I saw a post about consequences and I took him out to a fav coffee shop and we spoke about what we are going to be doing, we will tell him once to stop and if he doesn't there's a consequence in his case it would be to stay in his room for 5 mins, some people may say its not fair but after 3/4 hard days of us going through this he's improved so much because now he knows that when I say you'll go to your room I mean it and im not bluffing, yes we still have our moments and sometimes it means me sitting in his room with him and sometimes it means me needing to go to my room to scream in a pillow haha but its helped, also take tiredness into consideration and screen time, we had to remove mobiles and tablets from both kids, they can watch tv on Netflix but that's it, it takes time but maybe its an idea which could help you.

I hope you're ok I know it's so hard !