Is it acceptable to tell a 13 yr old to f off??

[Jbandt23]

Is it acceptable to tell your 13 year old step son to f*k off? Now I don't believe this is acceptable but according to my partner they did no wrong!! Admittedly my son did tell them to pss off because they were arguing which I have explained to my son that is not ok! But in my opinion as an ADULT telling a 13 year off to f off is not on! So just want to know if I am overreacting or not??

No, I’ve never told my teenage children to fuck off. The adult shows the child how to behave when you disagree with someone by setting a good example.

Lilasprettycafe I totally agree!

How are you going to deal with your partner? He doesn’t think he’s done anything wrong so he’ll do it again.

No, that's not on.

If your partner is defending this, he's the one who needs to fuck off.

It’s not ok but god I have felt like saying it a few times!!!

Never would I accept a bf or any other adult swearing to my kids but then my kids wouldn’t dare swear at another adult (well I think they have muttered to me before under their breath!)

Stick with your gut on this

Is he DS dad? I assume not, I'd be keeping a close eye on them and how they jostle for position now DS is getting older and getting rid if he did it again.

Nope not at all.

However the child’s behaviour needs dealing with too. What if he unleashed his potty mouth on a police officer who was ‘winding him up’ or telling him what to do in public.
sounds like there is zero mutual respect in this house.

Was it a one off after a huge build up of 13 year old being a dick? Or is it a regular occurrence? Neither are OK but they are different.

Absolutely not acceptable and even more so to a stepchild (although to any child is not okay!). The response in them feeling it is okay also would be a big flag that it wasn't that they completely lost it in the moment and feel awful, know they have done wrong and do the work to repair and make sure it never happens again which although doesn't excuse it you could maybe work through. If that were me they would be out that door (firmly slammed behind them by yours truly) - your child is reliant upon you to keep them safe and model healthy behaviours and relationships and should be the priority. They to me have crossed an absolute clear line. Regardless of how difficult your child's behaviour is - and you can hold them to account that that is not okay - they need to know you will protect them and not allow them to be harmed by adults who should be safe in their life.

This, what was the circumstances?

Agreed, there is no respect for each other and I am always in the middle. 😢 My son has had enough being spoken to badly and I feel he is acting out to protect himself but he has already said sorry to me for swearing as normally he rarely swears not around me or under my roof anyway... I really have had enough now, my role is to protect my kids and they will always come first!!