I’m so tired

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That’s it really. I’d just like to rant about how exhausted I’m finding life.

Single parent to two toddlers. Both toddlers have different disabilities, one more severe than the other. Everyday, I’m exhausted. Everyday, I hate my life even more. Toddlers are hard work as we all know, two toddlers are even harder. But two toddlers with different disabilities and neither of them talk? It’s awful.

I also work part time and I’m realising how overwhelmed and overstimulated I am by the end of the day. Posting here won’t make a difference, I’ve posted countless times but it’s nice to put my thoughts down and let my feelings out. Everyday, I order a takeaway because I’m that exhausted I don’t have the energy to cook for myself. I have such a big family yet absolutely no support. I don’t understand my life at the moment and really hope it gets better. Thanks for reading

I can’t believe no one else is tired🤣

I'm tired, but didn't want to compete as I think you'd win!

Why no family support? Do they know how much you are struggling?

Oh OP, I got exhausted just reading your post 💐

I'm absolutely in the same boat - I have 1 DS with no disabilities, and 1 terminally ill DM living with us for care needs, but I'm also tired enough to order a takeaway pretty much every day. I think it's become a crutch 😅

Can you afford a babysitter/some kind of external care? I've heard it's tricky with disabilities thrown in the mix to find help, but maybe there's something? I used to pay a local teen a fiver to come with us to the playground and play with DS so I could sit with a coffee and be uninterrupted for half hour 😂

**absolutely NOT! 🫠

This sounds about as exhausting as it gets. Not really much to suggest that you probably haven't thought about. But just to say you're amazing and even if no one else sees it Mumsnet does x

Im exhausted too haha, i have a 9 month old who hates sleep, an autistic 14yo dd who is currently going through a “you dont know anything, i know everything” phase a 12yo ds who has just hit puberty so is going through the stroppy, lazy teen stage, 9 yo twins- ds twin is autistic, non verbal, cognitive delay and has recently decided he hates clothes, school, sitting at the table to eat lol my dd twin is the only one who is going with the flow and not causing issues atm, to top it off ive got a stinking cold and cause i can’t get any sleep/rest ive had it for 10 days now n still not getting any better lol xx

It certainly isn’t a competition! We can all be tired together haha.

Unfortunately, all of my family members are extremely busy with their own lives. They all work full time and life feels stressful for them too. My mum is the only person who doesn’t work but she has extremely poor mental health and rarely leaves the house. It’s all quite sad really but there isn’t an health even though they all know how much I struggle

@MoneyAndPercentages I honestly think that little takeaway at the end of the day is what keeps me going! It’s obviously such an unhealthy and expensive habit but it’s either that or I bloody drink myself to death.

So sorry to hear about your mum, your situation doesn’t sound easy at all. I did consider a baby sitter but most charge £15 per hour and it’s just not something I can afford at the moment. With their disabilities, it’d have to be someone who can accommodate their needs which makes it more trickier. I may have a little look again though so thank you for the reminder

@Cornflakes44 thank you so much for your kindness!

@Avie29 wow!!! How on earth do you manage each day? Do you have support from a parter and/or anyone else?

Its just me and OH and OH has cerebral palsy so majority of baby/child care is on me, although he does his share of housework and cuddles with baby while i cook dinner etc lol im mostly knackered at the moment as im ill and not able to get any/much sleep lol i used to survive on caffeine but since im ebf cant have too much either so im dying lol xx