Hi,
I have been advised by a support worker that I can offer supervised visits with my son and abusive ex who has previously been stopped from seeing our son. So he come to me after 2.5 months and asked to see my son in a play area for an hour where I can see.
It was games from the get go. He changed his friends name to a girls name and got his friend to send lots of messages when he was in there (weird and actually shown me he did that) this was to make me feel rubbish and then perk me back up by telling me it is lies (because he knows I still have feelings).
Anyway, he tortures me with things like the above and many other things. I was with him for two hours and he got inside me head again as usual making out to be this perfect dad. I don't really think he actually cares about our son as after not seeing him for 2.5 months and seeing him once he's not really jumping to arrange something else. I feel it is more about me.
He is grinding me down and getting in my head and he is almost making me weak. Making me question myself and if I am the abusive one and then blowing hot and cold. He is a master manipulator and he doesn't even have to try. The girls love him as he is a big muscly man and he uses this to his advantage. He rubs it in my face girls are flocking for him and he could get anyone at the clock of his fingers. It should not bother me but it does and that's how I feel.
I want to stop contact with him again not because he could get girls of course it is more how he tries and succeeds kind of!! To break me down. my life was amazing the 2.5 months without him - but now he is manipilating me and doesnt care he gets in my head gets me down and then have to raise our son. i need to be my best self again for my son - would u cut the supervised visita?