To the Poster who just posted due to mark on baby

[AllHisCaterpillarFriends]

I understand why you removed the post, but I had a similar experience, but thankfully it was concluded much quicker.

Look in your red book, is there any mention of the mark at birth?

Go through all your photos, are there photos with it in by accident (rather than deliberately taking the picture) collect all that you can to show timeline.

Take photos every day from now on, it won't fade if it isn't a bruise, makes notes, mine child's got worse in hot or cold, and when they were unwell.

This won't last much longer as the professionals will realise that it isn't fading.

Hi sorry I am the poster I had to remove due to accidentally including my child’s name. I’m very new to this haha.
ive shown them videos I’ve taken that weren’t recorded to catch the mark like of her dancing, crawling etc. and same with photos like her in the bath, playing etc.
this is what I’m hoping because the mark hasn’t gone anywhere in 8nmonths or so it’s not going anywhere now haha. I just never realised how horrible of a situation social services and the drs can put you in!

I'm glad you saw this post.

I don't know you but it just sounds so similar to what I went through - I happened to have an excellent HV who advocated for me and showed all the photos I had, which meant it was all dealt with in 48 hours, I can easily see that I could have been where you are now.

As you said it has been there 8 months so it will be there long after it would have faded if it was a bruise.
When they close the case ask them to put something in writing. I had the same issue again when my DC started school.

I do hope it gets sorted quickly, bloody scary when it happens

That’s great advice thank you! This is our issue if we had a good health visitor who noted my concerns this would have been over and done with! I’ve been assigned a new HV who seems to want to move mountains for me with this thank god. I’m just hoping it can get sorted soon!

@ForBrickCat

Are you able to share again what's happened?

You have her name in the above op. Try and edit your post.

Literally just edited it thank you haha

Hi everyone I was the poster. I had to remove due to accidentally including my daughters name but this is what happened

my daughter has had a mark on her back got to be since she was about 4 months old. I consulted my HV over it because I am definitely an over paranoid mum and I’m sure I convinced myself she had meningitis or something. HV assured me all was fine, it was either skin discolouration or pigmentation almost like a birth mark/mongolian blue spot.
I took her advice and didn’t worry, and the spot never disappeared so I assumed she was right. My sister attended this appointment with me and witnessed HV checking the spot.
Fast forward to Friday 3rd October, I noticed the mark was darker and this took my attention, I attended play group with my friends who also know about the mark and asked them if they think it’s darker, they agreed. I then rushed home and phoned the drs for an emergency appointment.
The drs advised they didn’t know what the spot was and the protocol is to contact social services and to go from there.
I have been put through hell since that day, I have not been allowed to be with my own daughter unsupervised, my mother is living with me, my mother has to even take my daughter to the toilet with her. As a mother who absolutely adores her daughter this is completely heart breaking for me.
I have followed all social services protocol and adhering to their care plan. But my issue is, we took my child to the hospital yesterday for their standard safeguarding procedures and checks,my child was put through the works of X-rays, CT’s, blood tests etc, as you can imagine this was traumatising for both me, her dad and my child herself.
During this appointment I showed the Dr dated photos of my child’s back and the mark there for months (I even proved to the dr that they were original photos)
They had to get in contact with the health visitor who saw the mark who I was hoping could put all of this to bed with her notes, only to find she didn’t make any note of it and apparantly can’t recall as it was so long ago.
This has now meant that because it is an ‘undertermined mark’
I am now under social services with a case worker and my life has been turned upside down. My mother has to supervise me until a decision is made, and this involves their legal team also.
I went to my health visitor for help, I went to the drs for help and I feel as though I have been completely let down by my health services.
I completely understand there are protocols to follow and I have absolutely no issue with that, but the fact that HV did not note this has led to this continuing, if she had noted something we would not be in this situation.
We love our daughter more than anything; she is a happy, healthy, well looked after, clever baby. The problem is my child’s custody and home life is now in danger because of the incompetencies of an NHS employee.
As a mother and a person, I did everything right by my child.
I asked a healthcare provider to look at it, I was told not to worry. I noticed a change, I went to the dr on an emergency appointment. I did everything right.
She’s our absolute world. I trusted the health service to help us and we have been severely let down.
sorry if this sounds a bit too formal this is basically copied from my complaint to the healthboard haha

Reading it again, it is just as awful.

I know they have to check these things but where is the common sense ?

Can you consult a dermatologist privately and get your own second opinion ?Look for one who works in the nhs aswell -my dc all had various types of birthmarks - they changed over time as well it could be something like this.
the HV is massively at fault for not recording anything .