Hi all, I just need a little advice if I’m being paranoid or if I am being treated unfairly at work.
I am 13 weeks pregnant. At 12 weeks I told my boss with whom I’m friends with outside of work. She’s very careful not to mix the 2 so at work even though we’re very friendly. We remain professional.
she was very happy to hear I’m expecting. Coincidentally, the following week I had my 6 month probation meeting which I passed based on my performance at work which was satisfactory.
the next day I had a chat with my partner and due to this being our second baby. We’re also moving quite far away and I need extra appointments for myself (pregnancy) and my son as he’s almost 3 and is non verbal. I have already used up all my holidays for my sons appointments as I cannot expect work to accommodate this.
as a result we decided I should leave for my maternity leave asap which would make it 15 weeks from today. As I am friends with my boss I decided to let her know of my plans because even though I only need to give 8 weeks notice, I thought that it’s only fair to give more if I already have an idea of when I want to start it.
she got very mad and said I made her look like a fool because she only just passed my probation and I said my probation is purely based on my performance at work not whether or not I will not leave after.
since she hasn’t really spoken to me. She said I have disappointed her by going on maternity leave so early and putting the rest of the team in a pickle.
as far as I’m concerned the team has always been understaffed but that isn’t my issue? I cannot worry about as I’m not a manager. It isn’t my job.
i was trying to do a nice thing and be honest and give more notice as I know recruiting can be long. But this has blown up in my face and now the atmosphere at work is terrible and I feel like I’ve done something wrong?