Feeling emotional after 3rd baby

[Safi123]

Hi All,
Im currently 8 days post partum with my 3rd(DS) newborn. I have DD(4.7) and DS(2.6). I’m feeling really emotional and overwhelmed at times, I have moments of happiness/positive and moments of sadness. I feel like I’ve made a mistake although 3rd baby was very much wanted. I feel like my family dynamic has changed when I just got used to the old routine. My other 2 kids still want and need me so much and I feel like I can’t give them what they need. My baby also needs me especially since EBF. My husband is amazing and so supportive but I almost feel like he’s been burdened with this change too. I know logically this is probably the hormones, tiredness etc. I love my kids so much but I almost feel like I am missing my time/old life with the 2 older ones. I don’t know what I’m expecting at this stage. Just hoping this is baby blues and will get easier/ better with time and as baby gets bigger.

Are you still under the MW @Safi123? Whilst the things you're thinking are perfectly reasonable thoughts and lots of Mums have them, if those thoughts are overwhelming or you can't find any joy, it might be time to talk to the professionals

All of what you have written is true, and you'll probably go through a period of mourning the loss of the time with your older ones, the same as you may have done when your second was born and your first got less attention. Hormones won't help, and it will take time to get into your groove as a family of five, but it will come. Be kind to yourself, get baby in a decent carrier like an ergobaby embrace and carry on doing your usual stuff with the older two. Congratulations!

I only have two but felt very similar after my second was born. Obviously now I can't imagine life without him. I'm sure things will settle but do seek support if the feelings get bigger or more worrying.

Hey 👋 i know how that feels, i sometimes miss my ‘old life’, baby number 5 is 8months old surprise baby, started all over again after 9 years, mostly i miss sleep lol and me time- didn’t get much with 4 kids but i atleast had my evenings, now i spend my evenings running up n down the stairs breast feeding a baby that hates sleep 😂, i love her to bits and she has brought so much joy to our lives but wow is it hard starting again lol xx

@PolaroidPrincess They’ll be coming this Wednesday, I’ll mention it to them. Thank you for your kind replies. I’ve been feeling little better over the past day.

So glad you're feeling a bit better. I can remember wondering what on earth id done after having my second