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CJ98 · 25/09/2024 23:08

I’ve been with my partner for two years now and I’ve slowly found his mother has changed to the point I don’t like having her around our baby girl. It’s the first granddaughter for her but I’ve found that she invites us to her house and will sit and drink wine so we have to find our own way home - my partner rides a motorbike & I don’t drive so having to find our own way home with a baby is difficult. We have a routine that most people will follow however a few weeks ago we were asked if she could have our daughter for a few hours which we agreed to - to then come home to find she’d given our baby 2 X 5 ounce bottles in the space of 1.5 hours, she then had the nerve to complain about how baby girl was being sick a lot. She’s also demanded that we go to her house for Christmas even though we both agreed we would love to do Christmas at home as it’s not only our first Christmas with a baby but also our first Christmas in our own house. She’s done this because it’s the only day off over the Christmas period my partner will have off work..
she’ll ask my partner for money but then critics us for the way we spend our money because in her eyes the money we earn should be going on our daughter.
She has an opinion on everything we do and as first time parents we are already feeling overwhelmed by everything and her opinions seem to be causing more problems.
I feel like everytime I speak to my partner about her he gives me the impression I’m the one with the problem.

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SharpLily · 25/09/2024 23:33

She can demand all she likes but you don't have to obey. You choose where you spend your Christmas, not her. And it's probably time to look into at least one of you driving and getting a car - with a baby it does make life easier.

I have a difficult mother in law too and I did my best with her but life has been much easier since I simply accepted that she's just awful and stopped making any effort. Not easy at first but so worth it in the end. How does her son feel about her? Because that's where it's going to get tricky.

ByPeachBiscuit · 30/09/2024 22:57

Just say no thank you we have plans for Christmas already. Same when she asks you to go to her house, no thank you the travel home is too much with baby right now. You don’t have to please everyone else.

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