I know this is just kid stuff, and I don't want to get too involved. But I'm looking for advice on what to say to my daughter/give her suggestions on how to respond to the situation.
My DD has been bestfriends with another girl since the start of school. They are very close and also see each other out of school. I've had my concerns as I had noticed that the BF didn't like my DD talking to other kids - literally heard her make a grunting noise at her once when she spoke to another girl at drop off to an activity and my DD stopped talking to the other girl (I did discuss this with my DD at the time).
School have had some involvement and have done some work with my DD on asserting herself etc. I could ask them to intervene again - just with my DD, not the BF.
They are both friendly with the other kids in their class. But one in particular the BF has recently got quite close to. DD and new friend sat together at lunch yday as they had school dinners and BF had packed lunch. BF stormed over angry at one/both of them (I can't quite grasp which) with comments like 'oh, so you're best friends now are you'. There was a bit of a row. My DD said to me that she doesn't think she should talk to new friend. BF will still talk to new friend though, she just doesn't want my DD and new friend being friends.
It sounds so petty. But some other recent behaviour makes me worry that BF is isolating my DD (who used to be very sociable and make friends easily), and then will drop her when she feels like it. I fear my DDs confidence has plummeted and if I don't give her some good guidance soon she'll forget how to make friends and have a miserable school life.
I have already spoken to my DD about still talking to new friend, as it would be mean not to and if I find out she's being unkind I won't be happy. And also that BF is still going to be friends with her.
I've rambled for long enough. But I just wanted to add that BF is generally a good kid, but quite dominant. We see a lot of her and their friendship can be lovely. They argue like sisters at times, but that has reduced in the last year or so.