2 year old won't sleep in his bed

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Hi, hope you're all well.

I have a 2 year old who won't sleep in his bed after 1am. He will fall asleep fine at 8pm everyday but will be screaming the house down at 1am to sleep next to me. I have tried to put him back to bed he would eventually fall asleep and then wake up within 20 mins looking for me.

My boy has been sleeping in his cot since his been born - no cosleeping ever. At 1 and a half years old we transitioned him from cot to a cot bed. He slept through just fine. His wakings have started since 3 weeks ago . As his never coslept with us before he will come to our bed fidget for 3 hours and then fall asleep and be up for 7am . We are extremely tired.

Any tips to get our boy to sleep in his bed through the night again? He has a nap between 1-2pm everyday.

His routine is 7pm he has milk, reads a book and gets ready for bed. I sit with him until his fallen asleep. I have tried to walk out the room before he falls asleep but he won't have it cries until he vomits everywhere .

If you don't want to cosleep then the only real option is to keep putting him back, horrendous for a few nights but works long term.

It would also help if you can get him to self settle at bed time. I'd look into gentle sleep training techniques like gradual withdrawal and see if they could work for you.

Does he seem in pain at all - could it be his back molars if he hasn't got them yet? Could try him with Nurofen when he wakes up at night in case that's what is bothering him.

If not it could be a reduction in sleep needs, maybe he needs a later bedtime, earlier wake up time and/or shorter nap to keep him asleep solidly overnight. If he is consistently up for a significant period in the night and you have ruled out pain from teething or something else, it would suggest he may not need as much sleep as he did previously.

@NuffSaidSam we have been putting him back to bed for the past week every time he wakes up . Which is every 20 mins. Even with cosleeping his not really sleeping. He just fidgets and cries a few hours then fall asleep.

@angelpie33 I have given pain relief just in case his in pain but it doesn't seem to make a difference.

Is there separation anxiety at age of 2 ? He won't sleep without me. My Husband has tried to put him to bed but he goes in hysterical crying until I put him to sleep or sit next to him .

His non verbal so doesn't understand when we try to explain he needs to sleep on his bed.