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Will my kids ever sleep through the night?!

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SallyPatch · 24/09/2024 01:59

Just a post asking other people's advice/ experience really...

2 DC - 5 year old sometimes sleeps through but lately calls us most nights.

But the 2 year old 🤯 they literally wake every single night, without fail, and then cry until they get us. Usually around 11pm-1am, so I think it's as they change sleep cycles.

We have tried, quite literally, EVERYTHING. They go to sleep in their room quite well so it's not a room problem. Tried a Blackout blind, white noise, earlier nap, later nap, no nap, full belly, not-so full belly. There are no external factors like noise, or adverse temperature. Even a sleep consultant had no further suggestions for us.

Granted, they go back to sleep for the rest of the night when we join them, so we have to be grateful for that, but still, it's really hard to have disturbed sleep every single night and to never be able to sleep in your own bed. On the off chance that 2 y/o has a better night, 5 y/o is bellowing instead.

We have even bought an extra double bed so that everyone has a place to sleep together 🤦🏻‍♀️

However we don't really want to just co-sleep the whole night because the kids are fine going to sleep in their own rooms, plus it's nice to have evenings to ourselves when we can (until the inevitable wakes!)

Don't want to do Cry It Out or Controlled Crying because if they do want the comfort then of course we want to be there for them.

So..... is there something else we can do to try and get our kids sleeping through the night in their own beds?

Or is this normal, and our kids just want the comfort of us being there, and this is just our life for the moment?

OP posts:
CherryValley5 · 24/09/2024 02:25

I feel your pain OP. DD couldn’t sleep without me beside her until she was around 6 or 7! It was a comfort related thing - she was really scared of the dark and didn’t like being alone at night, me being there allowed her to feel safe. She always slept right through the night that way.. me on the other hand not so fortunate! I do not miss the days of being accidentally kicked awake by a restless sleeper..

No suggestions I’m afraid (I will probably wake up to horrified MNers in the morning as I let her sleep with me for so long..) but it will get better with age. She started sleeping in her own bed aged 8 and has never came into my room during the night or slept with me since. Wait until they’re teenagers - you’ll be tearing your hair out trying to get them to wake up at a reasonable time! 😬

mummybearSW19 · 24/09/2024 02:37

It does get better.
You are in the eye of the storm
#thistooshallpass

My now 12yo sleeps through. In fact he is prone to sleeping in late these days. However at 2 1/2yo he had never slept for more than 2 hours uninterrupted between the hours of 11pm and 6am!!!!

Started to improve around 3. Was fine by 4. We just made life as easy as possible.

Which is when we had our now 8yo. She was a dream as a baby. Slept loads. I was so smug.... However at age 2 1/2 yo she regressed massively. And then for the next 2 1/2years she sometimes slept through and sometimes didn't. Yes until the age of 5. It was a killer.

No rhyme nor reason either way.

Both kids had their own double bed from 14mo. If he came into my bed, dad would often go into his. Or I would.
We didn't do much at weekends. Kept life light.
I went away with friends without husband or kid. Was bliss. And saved my sanity!!

Other than that not much advice except to be kind and to repeat the mantra.... this too shall pass!

DrJump · 24/09/2024 02:37

Yes eventually but gosh it takes such a long. Last night all slept through although OH woke me for a cuddle at 4:30 !!!

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