Baby in own room 2.5 months old

[MusicLife80]

Hello! It’s been a while since I had mine and I come from a country where co-sleeping/communal sleeping is part of our culture. For example up until I was 14 I shared a room with my Grandmother.

Our friends (who are similar age to us early 40s) have later in life had their first baby. We are delighted for them. They are really struggling with nights and waking etc so they’ve decided at 2.5 months to move their baby into its own room. My friend has said it can take her 3 hours to get the baby to sleep?

Now I said have you tried having baby next to you, they may not want to be left alone or are too little and she adamant that baby will now be in its own room. I don’t want to be a busy body but this all seems so wrong and they keep saying that the baby won’t be put down but baby is literally 2.5 months old! I go round every couple of days with some food as they have very elderly parents and no other support. I don’t want to say too much regarding baby but I know if they have baby with them it won’t take 3 hours to put baby to sleep. Also she is breastfeeding, life could be so much easier for them. Anyway I don’t know why I’m posting but I have now.

She'll figure out what works best for her in time. I think we just have such fixed preconceptions of what we'll do with the baby before they arrive and it can be difficult to alter that.

It's not something I'd do but I've learned never to question anyone's parenting decisions. As far as I'm concerned if its not my baby it's none of my business!

Well yes you're absolutely correct and I have the same view. I'm currently going through a similar thing with a friend who is persisting in trying to get newborn to sleep in the crib and getting no sleep, but she's adamant cosleeping isn't for them.
We can't do anything though other than provide information and support, they'll make their own decisions. Annoying though, when you know what would help and they won't do it!

I don’t know why you are posting either? Do you want reassurance you are the best mother? Do you not like them and are hoping others can join you in berating their parenting choices?

Im sure you have made many parenting decisions others would gasp in horror at (maybe not to the extent they post on an anonymous site to berate you and hope others join in).

What works for you is great, but others with babies of different temperaments may respond to different parenting styles.

Surely you know how hard it is being a new parent? Would you have liked a supposed friend judging your choices at this time?

Standard advice is to keep baby sleeping with parent or parents until 6 months. This is for safety

its not what I did as that wasn’t the advice when I had mine, but advice changes

I guess I’m seeking advice as to how to approach this, I’m not berating their choice. Maybe it’s a cultural thing but it’s not the done thing to leave a child alone never mind a baby. I guess I just keep my nose out!

However I will say I had a health visitor when I had my kids and they were very against co - sleeping I did my own research and of course I knew I’d slept with my mother then my grandmother.