Hi,
I currently have a 6 month old baby with my ex. Im struggling to set in place contact times/days, and just wanted advice please.
He has never had her unsupervised or over night. I recently found out he has been doing coke and other drugs when he goes out (I knew he used to in the past but thought he stopped). This is usually every few weeks. I thought he was only drinking but this explains why he would go days without seeing our child after. He has done this recently when I made an effort to make plans for him to see her more than once but he let the plans down as he wasn’t in a good way.
I’ve been asking to have set days even while we were together just to set a routine and so our child can have stability. He kept saying I am not allowed to do that? He’s finally agreed for set days but I am unsure how much contact is reasonable for our situation and her age? I was thinking 3 evenings a week to start (supervised by me)
I have denied unsupervised and overnight contact, mainly due to the fact if he doesn’t get his own way he makes threats towards me and is abusive verbally and emotionally. Also since finding out about the substance issues, I definitely do not feel comfortable with it
Sorry that this post is long! Just wanted advice on what everyone would think reasonable amounts of contact are, and how to go about this sort of situation.