My DD turned 5 recently and her behaviour has always been difficult but I’m really getting to the end of my tether. We are about to try Play Therapy so I’m really hoping that will help.
From a relatively young age (I can’t remember exactly) she started biting. It was an absolute nightmare. She mainly bit me and her sister but also sometimes another child at the childminders. We tried so many things to get her to stop, sometimes she would stop for a while but then she’d get angry and just do it again. She stopped eventually but I think this was an age thing more than any interventions we made (unfortunately).
She gets extemely angry and just cannot regulate herself. This happens quite frequently. At the moment I’m really struggling with getting her home from school. It’s only a short walk but she has started deliberately riding or scooting into me/ DD8. She then sits down and refuses to move, and has also lifted up her scooter to throw it at us.
We take things away and do time out etc, she’s always very sorry after but doesn’t seem to put her off doing it again.
I have wondered over the years whether she could have ADHD. I know girls often present differently to boys. The main things with her is that she is very excitable, much like a puppy/ cub and cannot control this and in her excitement will sometimes hit/ scratch etc. I also noticed that when I used to take her to toddler groups etc she couldn’t sit down like the other kids to listen to a story and would just run around. She is very fast at running and I often find it difficult to catch her!
She is not dry at night, in fact I have no idea how so much wee can come out of such a small person in the time she’s asleep (she wakes up and changes nappy up to twice a night). She also wakes up every night and wants to sleep with me.
The other thing I find really difficult is that any time we say or do anything she doesn’t like she says “you hate me” or “that means you hate me”.
She is often very sorry after violent outbursts and I know she feels bad about herself over it. I just don’t know how to help her stop getting so angry in the first place.
Does this sound like there could be a SEN issue? At school she is mostly fine although we have had the odd report of her not paying attention, but she is also very young for the year so school putting in down to that. Maybe I’m just a shit parent 😭