I recently found out I was pregnant (4 weeks). I know exactly when it happened and took a plan b immediately after. I already have a 3 yr old and 18 month old and we have a smallish house (1500 sq feet 3 bedrooms). My husband and I looked at our finances and it would be tight with current income and expenses - about a $500 buffer.
With that being said, I am heartbroken of the idea of aborting the child. I have always wanted a 3rd kid, but this was sooner than we were ready. I am scared of the grief and regret that’ll come if I decide to terminate the child. I currently have an appointment at planned parenthood tomorrow but just the idea of going there makes me want to vomit.
My husband is pro aborting the child. He’s concerned the toll it will take on us financially, mentally. We have some family support but it also doest feel right to expect them to help for a mistake we made. My mom still works full time and his is elderly. My kids aren’t great sleepers and they are both very strong willed,I’m able to handle it better than he is.
My husband wanted a vasectomy and I encouraged him to cancel the appointment. I couldn’t accept that we would be making a permanent decision not knowing if our minds would change in 2, 5 years etc. I feel immense guilt about that. However he did know I wasn’t on birth control when the deed occurred. We were both drinking and more careless than normal.
In my heart, I want to keep the baby. I am so so scared about what will happen to us financially, how it’ll affect my marriage, and my other kids.
Has anyone been in a similar situation?
Update: just got back from abortion appointment and I couldn’t go through with it. I’m . So . Scared . I know life is going to be hard but I could not give 100% consent to the abortion. I want to be able to make the logical decision and give my husband what he wants but I just can’t do it emotionally. I feel selfish and scared, very scared.