Am I being ridiculous?

[Firsttimemom1]

Just after fellow advise or comments from other mom's on here...

Me and OH have been arguing a lot recently, I've been really struggling lately with sleep DS has gone into his own room and tosses and turns all night over onto his front so I'm having to go in and turn him over. OH does occasionally too. Obviously I'm on maternity leave so I do majority. However I'm also under investigation with my bloods as due to me being constantly tired they think I may be anaemic again (I was during pregnancy) so this whole thing probably isn't helping my emotions.
DS is currently teething too so snotty nose, but generally happy all day, however when it comes to night he wails and cries continuous so we're giving him calpol occasionally when needed.
This brings me down to yesterday, DS was perfect all day, when OH comes home he has half hour chill then I say ill walk the dog to help him out so he can chill with DS. I get back from a half hour walk with the dog to DS wailing screaming and OH straight away says where have you been? I told him I'd obviously walked dog a bit further as he needs the exercise to which he then stated I should of given DS calpol during the day. Telling him he didn't need it, he's been fine during the day OH then says sarcastically of course he has! And telling me cause I'm the perfect parent and the perfect mom! I know everything! I told him I didn't want to argue, I calmed DS down and he went to bed. Fast forward to today he can't understand why I'm angry. I then said when he got home I was going for a run, something I rarely get to do only for half hour just to get some time to myself. DS was fine all night till around the same time as last night to which he was wailing again because of his teeth I gave him calpol, he then moaned at me for going for a run. Moaned saying I'm the perfect mom again, to which I have never ever and wouldn't ever say I was, no one is perfect I just try my hardest to make my DS happy. Moaning I know everything. He already knows how I've felt recently quite low due to being tired, I spoke to him about this last week, to which he said I'd waited too long to see a gp. I don't think I'm the one in the wrong am I here? Whenever I say anything back like im so fed up of arguing, or I don't want to talk to you right now all he has to say is well you know what you can do. Implying to leave I'm guessing? We are married and I understand babys can have a big strain on relationships but I just think he's nit picking and kicking off at me over nothing. I deal with problems as they arise I.e the teething I'm not just gonna give calpol to DS if he's been fine in the day I'll give it when he needs it. I'm quite horizontal with everything, everyone's always said but it's really starting to get to me now. I do my best for my baby, I'm knackered, I keep the house clean and tidy, I don't know what else he possibly wants.

How old is your baby? I assume over 6 months if they’re in their own room, in which case it’s safe for them to sleep on their front.

@NicoleSkidman he's 7 months, however he's quite a lazy baby, he will roll onto his front but cannot get back over and just moves his head side to side into the mattress, this then wakes me so I go and turn him over, I'm trying during the day to do as much tummy time as possible so he can turn himself back x

You don't need to turn him, he can move his head from side to side which is the important part.

@kenidorm I know I probably don't but he starts to whinge or cry anyway when he's on his front so I naturally flip him over anyway as he wakes me

Why don't you bring DS back into your room if he's waking so often? It sounds like you're both knackered, understandably, and tempers tend to get a bit frayed so more sleep all round would probably be a good thing.

You do need to turn him if he can't roll both ways. This phase won't last long. Soon he'll be able to roll and therefore will have the ability to keep himself safe.

But that's all a red herring. This is about the impact of becoming new parents on your relationship. I'm guessing your husband doesn't feel confident so puts you down by dismissively accusing you of being perfect (which means he's a failure in his eyes). Can you do some clear modelling of how to settle baby, watch some videos together on you tube etc? Invite your HV to come over and casually suggest new baby courses at your local family centre? All ideas but something to help him feel more confident and stop taking his anxiety out on you.

Honestly it just sounds like yous are both knackered and this type of bickering is quite normal with a new baby. My husband and I used to call it competitive tiredness and laugh a bit about it now. I think yous both need to give each other a bit of grace and try and come together as a team. It’s very normal for babies to have a grumpy period in the evening so normal in fact it has a name “the witching hour” if he’s been fine all day and then starts whinging in the early evening it might be less about teething pain and just more about generally baby grumpiness from being tired, over stimulated etc. why don’t yous try going for a family walk with the dog in the evenings get some fresh air, the baby will probably be happy looking about and be more settled.

I totally get why your upset at what he’s said but from his point of view he’s been working all day apparently baby has been good as gold and then he comes home you go out (which is absolutely fine for you to have some time alone) but he’s left with the baby at his grumpiest time of the day. No one is necessarily wrong here.