Do I remove the pillow or will he get used to it?

[ToddlerMummy78]

Just introduced a pillow for 2 year old. He loves it. But since having it, he’s started waking at night very upset because he can’t seem to stay on it. He normally wriggles down or spins 360. He then wakes upset asking for his pillow. He would previously sleep through unless poorly or teething. He’s recently cut some teeth so I don’t think they’re bothering him anymore (they’ve still got to finish coming through so could maybe still causing pain and causing him to wake but he’s usually fine after this point).

Do I remove the pillow again for a bit until he maybe starts to stay a bit more still or will he soon learn to stay put on it?

If he doesn't want a pillow and the pillow is upsetting him, what benefit is there is providing a pillow? Sorry if I am being dim.

He doesn't need a pillow at 2, it's the earliest recommended to offer. It hasn't worked so remove it and try again when he's older. My DD 10 doesn't stay on hers all night yet, but likes to snuggle initially.

No one 'needs' a pillow, we're generally conditioned into thinking we do, it's better to sleep flat. My oldest son always discarded his as a child and still rarely uses it for sleeping now hes 18. He'll be fine.

We've only just given one to our 4 year old, and only because she wanted one because other kids have them. She never stays on it and often ends up with her feet on it and her head at the end. Luckily she doesn't wake up.
Take away the pillow.

Does he have a duvet or is he in a sleeping bag? I wouldn’t give one whilst in a sleeping bag as they move around too much. But just take it away if it’s disrupting sleep, it’s not a necessity or anything.

I should have said, he was the one that asked for it in the first place and I know he’ll get upset and ask for it if I take it away. But it’s also annoying because of how it’s disrupting sleep. He’s still in a sleeping bag currently but outgrowing it so I was going to introduce a pillow first, then try a duvet to save me buying a whole other set of sleeping bags.

We introduced pillow and duvet when we moved DS to a full sized bed at 2.5 a year ago. He still never stays on the pillow and always kicks the duvet off.

They’re usually happier without them!

In that case I would try it with a duvet- he’s far less likely to be flipping 180 degrees when that would mean either coming out from under the covers completely and getting cold or sticking his head fully underneath. And he’s going to move to a duvet at some point so it won’t be wasted purchase. If he hates it you can just box it up and try again in 6 months.

Is it a full sized pillow or a toddler one? Mine is a sleep traveller so usually ends up with it over his legs or over his face, just to give me a heart attack 😅 the toddler ones are so flat that I wouldn't have thought he'd notice the difference

@Devilsmommy It’s a toddler pillow so is really flat.

It’s not the law to have one or missing a developmental milestone without. Remove it or put at the side of the bed so it can be cuddled if they want it in the bed