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Junk food

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LadyChilli · 14/09/2024 22:09

I am ashamed to say I've learned that my ds feels left out and othered because I'm too strict about junk food. He's with me 50% and his dad the other 50% and as his dad relies almost entirely on things like frozen pizzas and pot noodles, I've clearly gone too far in the opposite direction in trying to compensate. He is very active and is a healthy weight and not at all fussy so I want to change my approach, while keeping him healthy. I have a couple of questions:

What is a reasonable amount of junk food over the course of say a week? Sweets, crisps, biscuits, sugary cereals etc. I googled this and all I find are articles saying try to limit this stuff. That's not what I need to hear!

And how do you manage this at home when there is so much available when not under your control? There seems to be a constant influx from parties, school sales, well meaning friends and relatives giving treats. If I let him spend his pocket money on sweets as he'd like he'd spend the lot on big bags of Haribos. It feels like whack a mole trying to keep junk food at bay so I need tips on opening the gates in a manner that won't be damaging to my son's health and habits. Help!

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AgainandagainandagainSS · 14/09/2024 22:21

Do not feel bad OP. You are doing your best to do the right thing and it’s your ex who should feel bad, stuffing his child with rubbish.

FWIW this is what we do at home:
Mon-Fri: always healthy stuff. We meal plan. Everyone gets to pick something but it has tk be healthy.
Crisps: Friday and Saturday evenings - family ‘cocktail hour’.
Squash: never allowed.
Pizza: when we do a film night (but we make an evening of it and decorate them
Biscuits: one at a time per day (I have one with coffee so bit hipocritical to ban them)
No sugary desserts. Desserts are yogurt/fruit
Rules go out the window if DC are at a party of course.
We have cake with granny.

You are doing fine OP

LadyChilli · 14/09/2024 22:37

Thank you, I really appreciate you saying that, it's just clear to me that I have turned junk food into a forbidden fruit. I need to redress that somehow..

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Girliefriendlikespuppies · 14/09/2024 22:48

I don't like the term junk food, all food is food and fine in moderation.

I think a balanced approach is healthier, having the occasional chocolate biscuit, piece of cake, bag of crisps etc is fine as long as they're also having lots of other food groups as well.

Being too strict definitely runs the risk of backfiring.

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