What’s harder 0-1/ 1-2 etc (#kids)?

[Dreamingofthree]

Just that really. Conversation based on all of our personal experiences what you found the biggest challenge. Going from 0-1 child, 1-2, 2-3, 3-4 etc? And why?

i have 2 and I found the 0-1 incredibly hard.

I had a lot of pressure to breastfeed and it didn’t go well baby didnt sleep or settle and there was really no help of support, everyone just told me how normal it was. It wasn’t. Baby was severely tongue tied.

That being said parenting two is harder than one.

I didn't personally find either transition hard. If I had to pick, it would have been 1-2, but only because of the demands of a toddler.

Two young children I've found hard, just not the transition, but more a few months down the line when both were mobile.

I found 0-1 the worst, 1-2 actually felt like things got easier!

0-1, then 1-2. 2-3 has been mostly easy (so far!)

Same here!

A friend of mine found 1 to 4 tricky, but that is quite a rare scenario. (single child followed by triplets).

0-1 a hundred times harder than 1-2

I have 5. 0-1 was hands down the hardest.

1-2 harder but it was circumstances, we moved house twice and country once in the first six months and I did four months of it alone with a small baby and nearly two year old. I longed for the days when my first was newborn and I just got to enjoy my baby without the rest of life in the way.

I have two and found both transitions hard, but 0-1 hardest.
Friends with 3+ all say 2-3, 3-4 etc is easier

0-1 was hard because DD was a difficult baby - she had CMPA, didn't sleep, didn't eat, cried a lot... Once she got to about 14mo she was an absolute angel (she also started sleeping!). Her toddler years were bliss.

1-2 was fine at first because DS was a dream baby (except for sleep but he was fairly "normal" compared with DD), and DD had just started school. He was very easy in comparison - ate well, very cheerful, etc. Then he hit 18mo and turned into an absolute demon, hellbent on touching everything his sister didn't want him to. It didn't help that it was 2020! I'd say that lasted until he was at least 3.5...

Now they're 6 & 10 it's a breeze, although I do still feel pulled in two directions when they both need/want me at the same time. They're the best of friends, too (currently!).

Depends on the child.

0-1 for us. High needs DC who turned out to be autistic.

1-2 was a breeze with a placid NT child. I kept poking her awake because I could not believe a baby could sleep for two hours.

I found 1-2 so much harder than 0-1! DC1 just slid straight into our life and was so easy to take out and about whatever we were doing. DC2 is a different story. Probably down to the individual child in our case though rather than number.

I always feel like the odd one out for this but omg 1-2 was way worse for me, utter chaos and stress 😂 I enjoyed lots of sofa time and biscuit eating with 0-1 😂 6 weeks into 2-3, I think easier but OH thinks harder!

Difficult for me, 0-1 my first was a difficult baby but i could also rest when she was as i had no other children, 1-2 was easier i think (was 12 years ago now lol) 2-4 (twins) was actually fine but 2 was in nursery and 1 was in school so had some time without mad toddler/child about, 4-5 has been a bit crazy 5 does not sleep! Lol first time ebf too and its been sort of like having my first again as all the others are older, hadn’t changed a nappy in 5 years and night feeds were distant memory before 5 lol xx

My friends have all said 1-2 was hardest. That 0-1 is obviously the biggest lifestyle change in total, but the managing the needs and abilities of two children means daily life is much harder.

For me it was 0-1. I had no family support, had only been living in my local area for less than a year and also very little experience with babies. I was terrified.

At least with number 2 I had some idea of what I was doing and I had made some mum friends.

Definitely 1-2 for me! First time around it's a complete shock to the system but so much easier managing just the one child. They tend to fit in and you can dedicate all your time to them. Older GPs here so they found it tricky having 2 if we needed babysitters. Hard to split yourself when you've got 2 in terms of clubs/ play dates too. But it does get easier as they get older and depends on the age gap. Mine is 18 months so it was tough in the early days!

0-1 was a just huge shock to my system, 1-2 was difficult until ds2 got to about 6 months old. 2-3 was the easiest for me. Hard when my hormones were all over the place in the first few weeks but other than that it's been the best and easiest transition. I have 3 under 5