Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Parenting

For free parenting resources please check out the Early Years Alliance's Family Corner.

Donated clothes

15 replies

ShyHare · 13/09/2024 09:14

Been sorting through clothes we were given by friends and family. Some of which were donated to us early on before we knew what we were having so we ended up with a mixture of boys and girls.

Some of what was boys stuff were a load of jeans for between 3 to 6 months in great condition. Deciding to keep them, my husband didn't like the idea of our daughter wearing something meant for boys. Looking at them. There is nothing decernable about them that makes it obvious they are for either gender and tbh children's jeans can be expensive.

Plus when she wearing girly tops with them, no one is going to notice and quite frankly she'll be out playing and getting mucky and I'd rather they do that in something that I'm happy for them to get dirty that I'll eventually get rid of or donate down the line than go out and buy brand new ones from the girls section.

I've thought about getting some cute patches like hearts and flowers to sew into the pockets and cuffs of the jeans to make them look a little more "girly" but I feel like my husband is being silly about this and isn't seeing the economical benefit and seems to be too hung up on the clothes being gender specific.

Not sure if there is any difference between boys and girls jeans when they're young. But Amy advice would be greatly appreciated.

OP posts:
LadyCactus · 13/09/2024 09:20

Are you kidding? Embrace those free, essentially gender-neutral clothes!

I wish all baby clothes were gender-neutral. I loved the Little Bird range at Mothercare for that.

WhenSunnyGetsBlue · 13/09/2024 09:38

Wait what? My kiddo lived in her jeans for a while, have no idea whether they were 'boys' or 'girls'. They were just jeans. If in doubt pair with pink socks. 🤷

wishIwasonholiday10 · 13/09/2024 11:54

Of course they are fine to use and you don’t need to bother with sewing on patches etc. I don’t see how jeans could be gender specific at that age and it doesn’t matter if people can tell if your baby is a boy or girl anyway.

However I much prefer softer and more comfortable clothes for babies that age as they still sleep a lot. My DD is 2 and I still haven’t brought her jeans yet and didn’t use the ones we were given as the fabric was not as soft as cotton leggings. At 3-6 months she only wore sleepsuits anyway.

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about this subject:

Moretetrafish · 13/09/2024 11:57

My DD is 3YO and still wears her brothers old clothes (and often chooses to). The jeans from the girls section are exactly the same usually, I bet if they had a girls label in your DH wouldn't notice. Just pop her in them!

Nix99 · 13/09/2024 12:09

My DD wore jeans and other clothes that were given to us that were probably more so 'boys' and then DS has also worn some of DDs old clothes that are probably more 'girls' but I really don't see an issue. I mean I steal my husband's tops and hoodies to wear and it doesn't bother me.

ShyHare · 13/09/2024 13:39

Thankyou all for your advice. I'm keeping them and using the jeans!

OP posts:
WildCherryBlossom · 13/09/2024 13:57

Playing out and getting muddy at 3-6months!?!

That aside, jeans are jeans. Of course a girls can wear them. But at 3-6 months I prefer softer fabrics than denim.

SJM1988 · 13/09/2024 14:02

My DD wears alot of 'boy' clothes that were given to us for my DS then kept for when we had further children. She's 2.5 years now and often choses to wear her brothers old jumpers and hoodies over the girly things I have brought her.

Needanewname42 · 13/09/2024 14:09

WildCherryBlossom · 13/09/2024 13:57

Playing out and getting muddy at 3-6months!?!

That aside, jeans are jeans. Of course a girls can wear them. But at 3-6 months I prefer softer fabrics than denim.

That's exactly what I was thinking. Under 12 mths don't play in mud.

notacooldad · 13/09/2024 14:10

They are just clothes!
They don't identify as anything

Your Dh is as daft as a brush!

Superscientist · 13/09/2024 15:34

Clothes are clothes especially something like a pair a jeans!

I buy daughter clothes from girls and boy sections as to me the sections should be labelled pink and neutral. I do not understand why a pair of navy leggings should be gendered! I would love it if shops would give you the choice of searching both at the same time. I get that you might not want to put a girl into something with diggers on and you might not want to put a boy into a top with fairies on, that's your choice but so much of baby and kids clothes are really for all small people regardless of gender especially the essentials like jeans and joggers etc with a few add ons that might lean more to one gender than another.

TheShellBeach · 13/09/2024 15:37

I think jeans look awful on young babies.
But clothes are clothes, your baby won't know the difference.

Also, why is she playing out in mud at 3 months old?

InMySpareTime · 13/09/2024 15:48

Another thing to factor in is that 3-6 month shorts and 2-3 year shorts are essentially the same size as the age difference is negated by nappies vs pants. Keep hold of baby shorts for potty training age.

WildCherryBlossom · 13/09/2024 15:56

Oh yes a lot of baby dresses can also be worn as tops over shorts or leggings by toddlers.

DaisyChain505 · 13/09/2024 15:59

Clothing is literally just material we place on our bodies to be covered and stay warm and clean.

It literally makes no difference at all if said material is pink, blue, frilly, glittery, covered in unicorns or tractors. It’s just serving a purpose and all of the above shouldn’t be specifically designated to a certain gender.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread