I’ll try and cut this as short as I can.
me and ex finally split in march. He was verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive to me and the children. He upped and left and moved 5.5 hours away from us into his new girlfriend’s place within six days of leaving. Told me to tell the kids he’s been in an accident and not coming back. He won’t see them he will just pay for them. Threatened suicide. The list goes on. He cleared all bank accounts etc and refused to pay anything towards the mortgage or bills or the children. My son started to go to counselling as I thought it would help him. After some disclosures she had no choice to report to social services. They rung and said because he isn’t having contact they aren’t concerned but said if he was they would get involved. He hasn’t seen them since and i told him the reasons why and that id allow supervised via contact centre to which he hasn’t perused but he threatened me with legal action back at the start of July. I haven’t heard anything from any court or solicitor. So July and August passed and then youngest child’s birthday he got his family member to post a card to which he’d signed from him and his new girlfriend. To which I don’t know why he’d do that considering they’ve not been together long and the children do not know about her as he hasn’t seen them. I didn’t know but my mum had messaged him asking him if he could go any lower with putting his new girlfriend’s name in the card and asked if he was trying to continue hurt and confuse the kids. And he then basically insinuated legal action again. The kids are so much more happier and settled now he’s gone and I dread to think what he’d put them through with me not present.
do men like this actually persue legal action?
He did with his eldest son as his parents paid for it. But he still hardly saw him. (This was before I was around) but while we was together the mum moved house and he refused to agree to the pick up point as it meant a one hour drive each way instead of half an hour each way. And she said well if you don’t want to then stop paying for him and cut contact and he did. So that really makes me wonder if he would go to court and also travel 5.5 hours each way if he couldn’t do one hour
the whole situation is so stressful and I’m trying not to give it any headspace but it’s hard.