I don’t think this is the right place to post but would like some advice and reassurance.
Im currently 16weeks pp with my second daughter. I have a husband and 2.5yr old.
I am fortunate that my parents have a place in France so we flew out on our first family holiday as a four in late august and my husband stayed for two weeks and I stayed on (on maternity leave) with my parents and my two girls. It’s been two weeks since I’ve seen him and he flew back for a long weekend yesterday, and flew with my best friend and her 3yr old (she recently separated from her husband so I asked her to come and stay with us for a long weekend as she’s having such a tough time at home).
I do wholly trust my husband and my best friend but as stupid as this is, I felt really hurt seeing photos of them together at the airport having a drink before they flew. That was always mine and my husbands little tradition. It didn’t occur to me before I saw the photo that this would affect me.
when my husband and my best friend and her little one arrived around 6pm he was, I felt, a bit distant, and the first hour or so was a long chat about their travels and how much fun they had eating together at the airport and how security kept assuming they were a family.
we went for a meal at night and he seemed miffed that I wanted to set the table seating up so I could sit next to him, as he wasn’t fussed where he sat and it created a bit of a fuss because I needed my baby’s pram next to me. i ended up leaving the table to settle my baby to sleep when he filled my best friends glass of water up and left mine, even though mine was empty and I’m the only one not drinking alcohol because I’m breastfeeding.
he came over to me after 10mins or so to take over rocking the baby to sleep, and I said I didn’t need help so he stormed off and I just couldn’t help myself but ask what his problem to is. He seemed surprised and said nothing was wrong, and I got upset and cried and said I felt it was a mistake saying that he and my friend should travel together. I didn’t spell it out but insinuated that it made me uncomfortable. Again, he said he didn’t know why I was upset and he’s not behaving differently and said he didn’t want to be affectionate with me before because my parents are around. I asked him why he didn’t fill my glass of water and he said he didn’t think to.
I know these are all trivial things but I’m just so upset. I haven’t seen him in two weeks and I was so so so so excited to see him and it’s as if he doesn’t care about me at all. After I confronted him last night he went quiet and hasn’t spoken a word since and it’s now the morning.
it really awkward now because we’re now supposed to be doing things as a family and with my friend and I’m sat in my room crying and upset because I don’t want to play happy families while I’m so upset. I feel like my marriage is breaking down and panicking and I don’t know if I’m overreacting too much. I also think I’m hormonal and tired.
This is the first time I have ever had doubts in my relationship, and before this weekend I had never worried. What should I do?