would this be classed as neglect or just not very good parenting?

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'this' being sitting in the pub most of the day while your 10 and 11 year old dc are in the care of thier 13 year old brother or sometimes their 16 year old sister?

Depends. Did you give them enough money for fruit shoots and the slot machines?

I'm assuming this isn't your parenting method btw before you go ape at me

Not very good parenting. But neglect if 'this' was more than a one-off. There is no need to sit in the pub "most of the day",I would have thought.

lol,no.the family in question live near me

it is every weekend

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I should think it's pretty common but it doesn't make it good. It's hard isn't it - if you say anything the parents assume you are being judgemental, if you don't, they could be in danger.

Much more worrying is that the parents at some point come home, the teen bogs off out and you have two kids being supervised by pissed parents.

I think it entirely depends. Some people are parents at 16 after all. It depends on how responsible the older ones are, whether the younger ones have plenty to do and have a good time.

I really think parents neglect their own needs far too much these days. For some people it's vital they get down the pub and have some adult time now and again.

I wish there were more pubs which had good facilities for children, especially outdoor ones, because I love nothing more than to sit and chat with other adults while the kids get in gangs and career around. If they get upset they can always come to me and it suits everyone.

they seem to be having a good time picking on my dd and ds.this is one of the reasons im posting,these children have got into arguments with my dd,but as she is 9 i let her sort it out herself,but this morning one of them pushed my 5 year old ds because he was making a noise and they were trying to sleep.it was 11.30 am.i asked to speak to their mum and they said she was in the pub.my dd said to me after that their mum is always in the pub.

That's not so good then. Why do you have to have them round?

this all happens out in the back street.all the houses have tiny back yards so the children play in the back street,although i think the one came into our back yard and pushed my ds.they say my dc should play somewhere else as they've lived there longer.

i should probably talk to the mum but i dont want to get my face caved in,or be forced to move because all the locals gang up on me.