I don,t feel my dp does much of anything with my ds

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Hi
Something has been bothering me for a while about my dp.
I have never felt he has spent that much time with our only ds who is 7.
It has always been me who has got him into clubs etc and took him back and forwards to them.
My dp has never taken hin anywhere like that and if it wasn,t for me thinking of joining our ds into alot of things such as swimming, beavers, etc our ds would never do anything.

My dp seems to spend alot of time getting irritated by our ds when he is playing in the house and he is getting in the way of the telly etc.

My dp never thinks of taking him into the garden and having a game of football etc, or even taking him swimming, down the park etc.
He never plays any rough and tumble games with him.

He would simply let our ds sit and watch telly all day if it was down to him.
I have to keep suggesting things we can do but my dp is never that interested and thinks of every excuse why we shouldn,t.
In all I feel he is a very boring father for our ds and would rather sit at his computer doing surveys etc and leave me to amuse our ds.
He has made it clear in the past that he doesn,t particularly enjoy parenthood as he thinks its very restricting and he moans like mad when he is roped into doing anything with us.
Are my feelings justified or is my thinking over the top on this.
I feel really depressed about it.
He normally takes our ds out to visit his nan and grandad on a saturday.
However today I had a go at him about his general attitude towards things and he just walked out leaving me and my ds here on our own.

Mine is a bit like this too. He seems to spend most of his time in his study. He will sometimes do stuff with ds, but usually ds has to pester him a fair bit first. (ds is also 7 btw).

Dh does sometimes take ds to activities, but only because he drives and I don't. If the activity is in walking distance or public transport-accessible, then I usually take him, but if you need to drive to get there, dh takes him.

I think dh is basically a fairly solitary sort of person, and likes doing the sort of activities you do by yourself.

But ds loves it when dh does do something with him.

You are not over the top at all. I guess if that's how he feels it's hard to totally fake it. Very sad for both you and ds though. If I say anymore - I'll just make you feel worse! Just couldn't let you think you were being demanding or unreasonable - that's just not the case.

I am in a similar situation - but i have 4 kids.
dh and i bicker constantly about it - i cant remember the last time he did anything without us having a fight about it first.
He never wants to look after them and has NEVERtaken all of them out of the house together EVER ( I of course do it daily!).
I resent my dh enormously - he is back at uni, but cant even be arsed to do that.
We seem to be in the way of his music, and his life in general , and i dont know what to do about it.
i nearly threw him out today, but i do love him - i even want another baby!
Sorry i cant offer any usefull advice - i just try and live life without him, but then i take it out on the kids.
How bad is it? - maybe if he stayed elsewhere for a couple of weeks or a month he might realise that he is missing your sons childhood - a bit drastic i know.
Sorry i cant offer anything more useful but i will be watching this thread closely

Really for you and ds.