Annoyed about another avoidable bug

[Snotfair1]

My 3yo has just finally settled as he’s full of a cold. He has a constant green (sorry!) runny nose and is coughing his guts up. There’s no way he’ll be at nursery tomorrow so I’ll be booking yet another day off work.

I know this is life when parenting a young child in childcare but my BIL brought my clearly quite unwell nephew round for a play date on the weekend who happened to have exactly the same symptoms my DS woke up with the very next morning. I was surprised by my DN’s rattling cough and sneezing and asked if he’s ok and my BIL just dismissed it as a runny nose.

I know runny noses are a pretty permanent feature for 3yos but just wondering if IABU to be pissed off with my BIL for bringing our nephew here with a pretty nasty cough and cold? I just think it was selfish and he simply wanted to get him out of the house to burn off his energy. I get this but just take him to an open space if he’s well enough!

Would love to hear your thoughts.

Yes YBU I’m afraid. It is a part of childhood and an important one at that.

And you really don’t know if it was from your nephew. Seems a bit quick from infection to symptoms? More likely from nursery I’d say.

Will you keep your child off nursery for the entire time he is infectious, or just whilst he has symptoms.. there’s no parent in the land who hasn’t happily thrown their child into nursery/ school when they’ve been a bit ill.

I'd be pissed off, I will always warn people if DC is sick and give them the option to decide whether or not to catch up. Missing nursery doenst bother me so much, as to having a sick, miserable child. Why you'd intentionally inflict a sickness on a child is beyond me

If it was this weekend just gone, I'd be surprised if your DS showed symptoms this quickly after catching it.

Probably something that's going round.

If his ok in himself, with no temperature, he can go to nursery

Its the season for bugs - His going to catch loads

I have a toddler and it wouldn't bother me and she'd still go into nursery. It's important they're exposed to germs and build up immunity.

I think you're overreacting, sorry.

Thanks all for sharing your views.

We are both off as he has a temperature now. But I do tend to keep him off if he’s got a bad cold without a temperature. (For me, the distinction between a usual cold and a bad one is where I wonder if he might need his chest listened to by the doctor for a potential infection. Obviously if there’s a temperature too!) I won’t send him in when quite rough because he’s miserable enough at home when like this and I wouldn’t want to inflict that on other parents! I know how awful it is when an illness inevitably disrupts his sleep. He’s never been a great sleeper and we always seem to have a regression with a bad cold. Our nursery is also very quick to call parents to pick their kids up due to developing illnesses, according to the other parents.

Yep, I'd be cheesed off too. Hope he's feeling better soon.

Hope he feels better soon. Our nursery will have the children if poorly and give calpol and let them sleep longer but will call if child is distressed, they also have a sign outside listing the illnesses so you can keep them off if you don't want to risk pox or worms or whatever

People do this at playgroups too. 'We had a bad night - he's had this awful cough that's kept him up for the last couple of nights / got a stomach bug' etc. Magic. A playgroup is probably the best place for them then to pass that around ffs.🤦‍♀️