Being such a shit mum today

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I'm just out of spoons with my three year old today. She's not being naughty, she's just being three and a bit absent minded here and there, yet it's like it's pushing all my buttons and I'm being so frickin snappy.

She tried to give me a hug but misjudged and pulled a literal chunk of my hair out, when trying to help me cook she's dropped an egg on the floor, later pushed herself off my lap by putting her elbow into my nipple which was genuinely excruciating, I've just swept the floor and in attempting to find the pile so she avoided it she trampled right into it and sent it everywhere, she's scratched her brother on the face so he looks like scar (not sure what happened but he says it was an accident). All this stuff means when she's had emotional moments that come as part of the package being three I just haven't had the spoons to be the support structure.

Tried going out for a walk (thought a change of scenery might help) and she sat in goose poo (I was trying to get her to move/not sit there but just wasn't quite quick enough) so had to come back. I've put some cartoons on so I can sit in another room with a coffee for 10 minutes and just regroup and she's come in for a hug and managed to spill coffee all over me.

I know shes not doing it on purpose. We've just had so many emotions this week with back to school, solo parenting etc, I can't seem to bounce back quick enough before the next thing hits. Someone send me more patience, I'm running low!

Oh OP I could have written this myself!

It's so hard when they're just 'being three' - I find myself getting frustrated with DD all the time for this sort of stuff ESPECIALLY the elbow in the nipple omg there's nothing quite like it!!

No real advice other than you're not alone and you're not a shit mum ❤️ (a shit mum wouldn't be posting on mumsnet about it that's for sure) and you've done the right thing to take yourself for a coffee and a breather. I think there's nothing wrong with a bit of screen time if it's going to prevent us losing our shit!

Manifesting a better week for you next week x

As an aside, before googling, I thought you meant you'd just come out of spoons as In 'Wetherspoons' 😂 - never heard that turn of phrase before!

Bless you, write this as a FB post to yourself and in a years time you will look back and laugh, in 10 years time you will look back at this with a big smile on your face and wish she was that little again. Sending you a big bucketful of patience x

This sounds like every day with my 6 and almost 4 year old 😂 I feel like my kids were born with extra long limbs and especially sharp elbows, just right for sticking into any sore muscles.

Ha I'm always saying stuff like that. Totally out of spoons, no biscuits left in the tin, out of battery, have no water in the bucket and the house is on fire, have too many tabs open. It's a wonder anyone knows what I'm talking about 😂

Thanks for your reply xx

I also thought this! Haha.

Don't worry OP, we all have days like this. Tomorrow is a new day!

Aw OP I’m having a shit one too. Finally just had some lunch and am sitting down for genuinely the first time all day. Sooo many fucking requests, very very frustrating coming from the 9 year old as he’s capable of doing everything he’s asking me to do, and it comes with such attitude. Kids CONSTANTLY asking me for food, they were asking for an afternoon snack before I had even had lunch.
DD (age 2) so fucking whiney, didn’t want to nap but did then 6 year old went to get her an hour later whereas if I’d left her she’d have gone back to sleep. Think she’s got a temp and when I lost my cool with her and went ‘what do you want?!?!?!?’ my gorgeous empathetic middle child went ‘love :)’… he’s such a treasure but my god the guilt 😄 ugh. I’m definitely pre-menstrual, my fuse is so fucking short.

They just make mess wherever they go I could scream. DS is coming down now having been beaten up by his brother, I was glad they were off screens but oldest is just so mean at the moment. DD dropping milk onto the sofa for fun while I type this as I just need a fucking head break but never get it so the situation gets worse around me. Now DS2 wants to play a board game but DD will mess it up but he deserves my attention. Ugh

Oh jesus that is a guilt tripper!!! What an answer. Sending you strength. Since I wrote this post we've actually turned a corner and I feel like I have some to spare now 😂 maybe I was finally terrifying enough that they decided to behave. Also a bit hormonal here. It's bloody hard to keep the cool!

If it makes you feel better a week or so ago my DD sung an original song called 'Sometimes mummy shouts at me and it makes me sad'. Just turn the screw right in there kid!

My two year old has been so awkward today we're deep in the MY and MINE and WANT stage, such fun. Popped to next just before and she went and did a runner almost down the stairs woohoo.

Bedtime yet?

When mine was 2 we used to play a game where I pretended to be her and she would have to placate me. It was like therapy!! I would basically re-enact every unreasonable thing she'd done that week and she would bring me toys or things from the snack drawer. Once made that last about 45 minutes 😂 and didn't even create additional mess because whilst she was 'being me' she put the toys away if I rejected them.

Can highly recommend!!!