My 14 year old daughter’s first day back at school today. She has a small friend group, 4 of them were close although different level of closeness between individuals within the group, 2 & 2 often being ‘best friends’ but also still all hanging out together & the 2 best friends would change from time to time.
She came home today upset as the 3 others have ignored her all day, for no apparent reason & have latched onto a new girl to the school.
They would normally have lunch together & spend break times together etc, they’ve just blanked her. She said they whispered when together & walked away when they saw her nearby, rushed off to get lunch leaving her behind, that kind of thing. She saw one of them just a couple of days ago & there were no arguments & one other she saw first thing on the journey to school & all was normal & friendly, just seems like when they’ve actually got to school they’ve left her out.
I know what teen girls can be like, none of this is a shock to me but I had hoped at their age this sort of thing wouldn’t be happening so much. It’s also just so rubbish that it’s started on the very first day of school.
Theres been in-fights & fall outs before & part of me just wants her to find a new friendship group, the one she’s in often make snide remarks & ‘compete’ with eachother around school grades & who is most attractive etc.
I just needed to get this off my chest & see if anyone has any words of wisdom. When will this get better, what age roughly do girls become more loyal & better friends to eachother? What can I do to help her feel more confident & reassured that this is just how it is sometimes & isn’t a reflection on her?