Daughter going to be really disappointed we’re having a baby boy

[Peaplant20]

Hi all

any advice? Am 7 months pregnant and haven’t told anyone the sex of the baby yet. My 3yo girl really really wants it to be a girl but we’re having a boy! Any ideas how to break it to her? Or how to try and get her excited about a baby brother?

thanks

We didn't find out but she was really upset when we called from the hospital to say she had a brother. However once she came and met him she was fine.

My brother cried his eyes out when I was born a girl not a boy but soon got over it (he absolutely became besotted and we’re best friends 30+ years on)
my niece also went through this and wanted a girl but got a boy - once baby came the sec was irrelevant it was more exciting to just have a baby around!

My three wanted a boy and got a girl. None cared about an hour after meeting her.

Same sort of thing here. My eldest wanted a sister (he was 3 at the time DS2 arrived and his closest friends just all happened to be girls) and he was disappointed for a short time, but not long at all.

My dd wanted a baby monkey! I had a boy….

Could you maybe do an exciting reveal. We bought a party cannon on Amazon just for us to use in the garden to let DD know the sex of the baby. She was very excited by it all. She was 3 at the time.

I can imagine you are worried about this. DD was desperate for a sister as well but we did have a baby girl x

My son wanted a brother but I had a girl, love all these comments about they didn’t care after 5 minutes 7 years later my son is still resentful 🤣

I know a girl who wanted a ‘Piglet’ from Winnie the Pooh when her mum was pregnant 🤣

My DS4 wanted us to have a boy, we've just found out we're having a girl. We did a bit of a reveal (a football you kick and colour powder comes out) he was clearly disappointed when it was pink but now seems fine about it. I'm glad we told him now so he's got a few more months to come around to the idea.

I wouldn’t make a big deal of it - just tell her she’s going to have a baby brother and she will love him and be a great big sister.

If she is upset just explain that you didn’t get to choose and that’s part of the excitement of having a baby.

We didn’t tell dc1 that I was pregnant until I was about 26 weeks as we didn’t want it to be too long of a wait for him (he was 2.5 when dc2 arrived), and we had already found out she was a girl so we told him
as a fait accompli - baby sister was on her way. He never questioned it, though he does now occasionally say he wishes he had a brother (they are now 6 and 4!).

My friend's Mum dealt with it by saying, "but YOU are our ONLY girl and your brother is our ONLY boy...you'll always be our ONLY daughter and that makes you VERY special. You'll always be the prettiest, cleverest, most talented girl in our family." Back story was that her Mum was quite jealous of her younger, prettier sister and never got over the sense of competition!

Only works if you have no more kids mind! And are ok with being a wee bit sexist :/

Thanks everyone this is all very helpful!

My niece was the same, so funny in the video chat telling us "it just a baby boy auntie delia" 😂😂😂 it was Covid so they told us etc by video.

She moaned all the last 3 months of the pregnancy and dsis and bil were a bit concerned but honestly once they brought the baby home she didn't care anymore and loved fussing him.

My son wanted a baby dinosaur but was very happy with the little brother that arrived!

I don't believe that my brother forgave me for not being a boy for our whole childhood. We get on fine now though.

On the flip side, ds1 hated me being near, or holding, any other child when he was little. Would grab my arm and walk me away from them. No mummy! He loved the new baby from the moment ds2 arrived and adjusted really well.

My sister said you would leave home if number 3 was another girl. She was 10 so not young. Baby girl arrived and she was in love and 30 years later all the odd us are close

Our granddaughter at 3 was desperate for a sister, she confided in me that she didn’t want a brother, she then said would she be able to see his willie😱!
When I confirmed there would be lots of opportunities she was quite happy!

I wanted a sister and got a brother. I wasn't interested in him at all I was 5 when he was born. We never got on until I went to university, but he wrote to me when I was there, and I still have some letters decades later. In one of them he mentions the 1957 Lewisham train crash where two of his classmates were involved.

Apparently when my little sister was born i was bitterly disappointed the baby was no dog 😂 dunno why I was expecting a puppy!

My DD wanted a little sister. Instead she got 2 little brothers. She pretends to be the long-suffering older sister (at age 7!), but in reality she adores her brothers and will say without a hint of embarrassment that the 5-year-old is her best friend. She coos over and completely dotes on the 3-year-old. It’s all quite lovely.

Can you delay telling her for a bit and spend the next couple of weeks talking about how you can’t choose and it will be a lovely surprise and wouldn’t a brother be lovely for lots of reasons etc etc. then in a couple of weeks….surprise! It’s a boy!
this is essentially what I did with my daughter before we found out as she’d mentioned a sister a few times and obviously we knew it was 50/50. Worked and she was excited not upset about a brother. Only once or twice has she mentioned wanting a sister since.