Does anyone else feel like they're expected to do everything as a woman?

[PeggyLee123]

I keep so much bottled in to myself because I am so lucky to have a beautiful baby boy and many of my friends are trying and failing to concieve.

I just feel like everyting is expected of me.

Be a good mum
Go back to work (i'm only back part time three months in but my god i hate it)
make all the appointments
Clean the house
Make sure baby is not bored
Loose the weiight

I am fed up that men in my opniion do not have these epectations. Take my partner for example, who is not going back to work (i make more money), i would have thought he'd be doing all the appintment booking for doctors, taking him to baby group/

But no. he arguses that because he has baby 12-6am needs to sleep all day.

It just is not working. I'd rather be single on my own than have this constantly And his parents in laws are nightmares, they dont push him in any way. It's all on me.

My ex used to outright tell me our son wasn't his responsibility. He never once took him to nursery or school or a doctor's appointment. I don't know what I was thinking being in that relationship for as long as I was

No, I don't recognise any of this at all. I have a loving husband and I'm not expected to do anything other than raise our son together with him. He works full time, I work 2 days a week because I love my job. We both look after our son and do things with him alone and together as a family. We split the household chores equally. He gets up if our son wakes before 7 so that I can sleep as he knows I have the harder time running around after an active toddler than he does working from home at his desk. As for losing weight 😅 my son is 3 and I'm still not as slim as I was before I had him and my husband doesn't care in the slightest.

But no. he arguses that because he has baby 12-6am needs to sleep all day.

What does this mean? How old is your baby? What is your husband doing from 12-6am that means he needs to sleep all day? If you're working, who's looking after your baby?

I think a lot of people have relationships like this but many eventually leave them as it’s a hard pattern to break (and the secret is not to put up with this crap in the first place but it’s easier said than done). Obviously you are in the right and your partner is taking the piss (but I will say it is much harder to ring the doctor or fill in a form from work or a commute than it is to do it while looking after a baby or toddler as they scream!)

I am fed up that men in my opniion do not have these epectations.

In your experience your man does not have these expectations because you have allowed this and enabled it. Sorry, but that's the reality.

I have not experienced this at all because I never would have partnered with a man who was not my equal and treated me as his. I never would have dated any man past the first time realising he was a lazy man child who expected me to do everything.

Unless you want this bullshit for the rest of your life, your choices are to either demand massive, radical change and hope he steps up, or you have to leave him.