This is a long one but need some advice. Me and my husband have been together 8 years, I have a son with him who is 3 & one from a previous relationship, he’s 15.
when we first got together he was brilliant with my son, took him to football, looked after him etc.. then I fell pregnant! My eldest was entering teens so as you can imagine he wasn’t impressed & it took him a good year after his brother arrived to bond with him. On top of that I had PND, my other half wasn’t supportive at all and because my eldest wasn’t fussing over baby he took a dislike to him said he should be punished. From this my husband doesn’t want our son going to the same school as my eldest or being brought up like he has been.
he continues to say that we’ve put him through hell the past few years.
youngest son is a typical toddler, loud, tantrums etc my husband just can’t handle it and shouts a lot at him. He says he thought family life would’ve been different. I have told him to leave if he’ll be happier but he says he’d never see our son then as he wouldn’t want to stay with him cos he tells him off.
I am totally broken… my eldest won’t come home whilst he’s there, husband says if he comes back then he’ll leave. He thinks toddler should just do as he’s told with everything.
we have a fairly big house and he’s on about selling that so we can be in something smaller so our son won’t want to be at home and will want to go out to nursery etc..
he is a very angry man at the moment and is not the person he use to be and I feel so bad cos I feel like I’ve made him like this by having pnd and not accepting that my son had left.