12 month development questionnaire has me worried sick!

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Hello everyone :)

The health visitor is coming to see my DS for his 12 month development check four days before his first birthday.

I thought that he was doing OK. He makes eye contact, he smiles, he laughs, he enjoys shared attention and occasionally seeks this out, he crawls confidently, pulls to stand, babbles and will copy babbles.. I could go on.

However, based on the 12 month ASQ, he's so behind! I've had a look at the assessment criteria and he isn't in the white for any area and is often borderline grey/black!

Can my instincts about my child really be so wrong?!

For context, he wasn't premature but was born at 38+2 in an emergency due to growth restriction and reduced blood/oxygen from me in the later stages of pregnancy. He was 6lb4oz at birth. He spent three weeks in hospital due to low blood sugar, but this has now been declared as resolved and his consultants are not concerned. I'm wondering if all this will just mean he needs longer to catch up?

I'd appreciate any help/advice!

Thanks

To reassure you, my baby has his check soon too and he can't do everything either.m, I wouldn't expect him to.

Think of it this was if he was saying three word sentaces that may be an indicator for a neurodiverse problem. You don't know what's behind the questions, please enjoy your baby xxx

This is so reassuring, thank you so much!

Hey, sorry I haven't been through the entire thread. My son was born 38+2, at 3 kg. He only started saying words at 16 months and cruising at 16 months followed shortly by walking at 17 months. He is a little cautious so may have been wanting to wait until he is ready. Now he is 3 years old and is very chatty little boy. So much happens at or after 18 months...

I think these are things some children might do at this age (but not most!), not a developmental milestone he would be expected to meet.

To be honest, both my dc are very developmentally on target (they are in primary and secondary school now), but I don’t think either of them were doing any of those things at 12 months.

Hello everyone! Thank you all so much for your responses, they really did make me feel so much better! Especially those of you who are health visitors yourselves.

To update you, my DS is now 13 months. He understands some instructions such as "Turn the page" and has started to take his first few steps! He is able to throw things (it's actually his favourite thing to do at the dinner table!), he has had a go at rolling something towards us and has object permanence.

I'm a bit concerned about his social interaction. I should start by saying that he's such a social child, he smiles at everyone and he will crawl over to us and try and climb our legs to be picked up or when he wants something. But he isn't showing us his toys, or offering them to us. He enjoys games like "Peekaboo" and "Wind the bobbin up" but he doesn't try and join in for himself. He's usually the sort of child you'd describe as "into everything", but in that sense he seems quite passive. He also doesn't seem to have any words yet.

What do you think? I wasn't worried about his development, until my friend posted on Facebook that her 11 month old was doing all of these things and it really got to me! He does go to nursery twice a week and they haven't expressed any concern, but I can't help but worry.

Thanks x