Should I feel left out?

[Wbby19]

Looking for advice if anyone feels in a similar position. I’m 34 and at the stage where all my close friends have kids and are onto their seconds. I am so happy for them but it’s starting to take its toll on friendships as all our meet ups just seem to be kids focused. If we’re not planning play dates , I find all I am talking about is friends kids. Don’t get me wrong I love seeing them and catching up but I a just starting to feel left out like I just have nothing else to discuss, they ask me how things are and my life just seems dull just the usual work etc or holidays and then it’s back to kids. My partner and I are TTC but he has fertility issues which is causing me massive anxiety at the moment and then it just makes me feel worse when we see people and it just brings it all back in my mind what if we can’t have them. I know we can still have a great life but all my circle of friends have kids so it’s just making it so much harder or will we have to find new friends. I just feel so left out when ever we see people , but there is nothing I can do about it.

Your at different life stages, id branch out and see if you can make childless friends

I've come across this, about 60% of our friendship group have kids. I do not want to spend the majority of my time around small children, or talking about them.

I suggested some child free socialising and was told I was excluding the parents. I then arranged some evening things with just the CF people and was told I was being unfair and we should arrange things for when everyone can attend.

I gave up on the group and just started arranging things with people I wanted to see directly, otherwise every meet up became about what was best for the babies and parents.

I just arrange what I want now, and invite who I want. I chose to be child free. I don't want to spend all of my free time at a farm or soft play.