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Fair rent to charge your children

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Dissapointedad · 01/09/2024 15:51

So i have two girls one age 30 and another 25. The thirty year old lives in london working for NHS. Not a great salary as we all know. But her rent excluding bills is around £1400 per month.
my youngest who is 25 lives in Birmingham and is fortunate to be able to live in a studio annex i own which is part of a larger property. It’s independent and has everything she needs. She moved into there whilst at uni to save on the rent but nearly 5 years later she is still there. I do charge her rent of £240 including all bills. The market rent would be around the £760 per month.
Am i being fair in charging her rent at all as a parent? Her salary is around the £26k mark.
what i am uncomfortable with is treating them differently and want to make things a bit more even as i feel its unfair my eldest daughter is paying a large proportion of her salary in rent alone.
i cannot afford to subsidise my eldest rent. I obviously don't want to evict my youngest either. But her rent barely covers her utility costs.

so its a tricky one for me when i bring up the subject she will compare to her friends living at home paying £100 per month board with food included.

any ideas how to even things up a bit all round? Do i put the youngest rent up and give some to the eldest towards her rent and keep some back for the price hikes we have had last 5 years.

If it wasn’t my daughter living in the annex i would be approx £520 per month better off.

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drang246 · 01/09/2024 16:35

This is a tricky one. I get that you would want to keep things even for them, that was the way we always did things when ours were small - but now they're adults, they do make some of their own decisions (career, location, lifestyle) and you have to take that into account.

I think I would charge a fairer rent (maybe £350-400?) the one livening in your annex, and pass anything more than your actual costs it to the older one to put towards her rent. That way you're still subsiding them both, but only to the tune of c.£150 each.

interested to see what others suggest.

drang246 · 02/09/2024 00:01

Surprised no one else has responded

DrPeculiar · 02/09/2024 00:04

I think @drang246 ‘s suggestion is very fair. That’s assuming that you don’t need the market rate cash amount to supplement your own income.

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