Hi all,
I have decided to tell my partner (unmarried) in the coming days that we need to separate. DD is 3 years old in a nursery that’s 2 years long and she would finish next September. DS is 10 months old and will be cared for by a nanny when I go back to work in a few weeks.
I live in a rental flat with my partner and we’ve only lived there for a year.
In an ideal world, I would move in January with my children to my mum’s house that’s 12 miles away. I would give notice to the nursery, arrange for alternative childcare and sadly give notice to the nanny.
Partner has said he doesn’t consent to giving notice to the nursery when I raised this possibility a few weeks ago. According to him it’s unstable for her (no other reasons) but I have plans to put her in a kindergarten linked to her primary school that starts in Sep 2025. She is only 3, has no roots to this area at all.
My mum and daughter are very close, the house is secure and stable, eliminates my rent, nursery and childcare fees are reduced and it’s a long term stable plan for my daughter’s primary school. Visitation can be arranged.
Partner is unstable financially, defaulted on last term’s nursery fees, doesn’t work, still owes me money, plans to sell the car to repay me, makes me miserable etc. there is no way I could ever afford a stable family home with him.
if partner refuses to consent to me relocating, changing nursery setting would he have a strong case to stop me with a Prohibited Steps Order or is my case strong? Im scared of court action and the consequences but I want to leave asap as I have a clear get out that I believe benefits the children.