How will I cope??

[NEmum90]

I am currently 31 weeks pregnant with baby number 2 and I have a 2years and 9 month old..

I am struggling so much with this pregnancy, being pregnant with a toddler is a whole different ball game... I'm not afraid to admit I do not particularly like being pregnant but this feel too hard at times and I become extremely overwhelmed, I am ratty and snapping at my partner and daughter which makes me feel like rubbish..

How on earth will I cope with a new born and a toddler if I feel like this now 😔

Any advise would be great?

It's better than being pregnant with a toddler, in my experience.

If you're very lucky they might nap at the same time occasionally.

I found it fine; tiring of course, but you know, you get into routines so quickly. And with my second I knew that any difficult phases would definitely pass, whereas it's hard to grasp that with your first.

You'll be grand!

I agree with the poster above. Towards the end of my second pregnancy I felt heavy, physically exhausted almost all of the time and just felt like I wanted the baby out and it was making me so grumpy I often snapped at my toddler and had very little patience. I immediately felt better once I'd given birth, I was tired but didn't have that physical pregnancy exhaustion if you see what I mean. There's a 2 year 10 month age gap between my two, so similar to yours, and honestly I really haven't found it that bad, at that age my son was happy playing by himself with lego or watching tv if I was busy feeding the baby and in those newborn days when the baby wants to sleep on you all day rather than be put down I was still able to sit on the floor with baby and do drawing/books or whatever with my son. My second baby is 7 months now and my son adores her, she's sitting up and starting to crawl now and when I put her on the floor her brother plays with her and passes her toys and talks to her and it's the most adorable thing in the world. You'll be fine 😁

I have just less than two years between mine and in my experience, you just will!

Some days will feel harder than others, but the nice bits far outweigh the tricky bits. Plus I had more energy with a newborn than I did in late pregnancy, despite the sleepless nights.

The first year with your second goes by incredibly fast, before you know it you'll have two little buddies running around together. Congratulations and good luck OP

I'm 29 weeks and also have a 3 year old, so I really sympathize with you!

My newborn is going to have to stay in hospital for at least 3 months when he's born. I'm going to tell you what my uncle told me last week.

You will cope. You're strong enough.

Being pregnant with your second is so hard, just do whatever you can to make the next few weeks easier.
My eldest was 3 when my second was born and she went to playgroup 4 mornings a week which was great because it stopped her being bored and gave me some time to rest with just the baby, so that would be my tip!

In my experience a newborn and a toddler is easier than being heavily pregnant with a toddler!

yes having a newborn and a toddler is much easier than being pregnant with a toddler, because you don’t have a baby constantly draining your energy, i find my energy levels shoot back up once baby is out lol and you can move about without the clumsiness and pain of a big bump xx

My two are 19m apart (the younger one is 2y 1m now). I actually found the first 6m okay. You put the baby down or have them in a carrier. It became harder when they were both mobile but you always just manage the best you can. I try and focus on the good times and how cute and funny they are and apologise when I need to.