I want him off my boobs and out of my bed!

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DS2, not DH

He's almost 6mths, and sleeps most of the night in our bed. He is also still breastfeeding like like a loon. He wakes 3 times a night usually, spending the first period of sleep in his cot (in our room) before sleeping between us.

We only have 2 bedrooms, and 22mth old DS1 is in the other.

I have tried offering a diluted bottle at night instead of boob- sometimes he takes it, other times not.

Has anyone done this with success? I don't know whether to carry on trying to get him in his own bed all night AND off my norks, or do one at a time?

I would settle him in his own bed before you stop breastfeeding

Get a copy of the no cry sleep solution, you can't expect this to happen overnight, looking at a 6-8 week action plan.

I can't offer any advice, I'm afraid - Ds1 is nearly 5 and still in my bed (not Bf though!) and Ds2 is 11 months and Bf a few times in the night, but generally he sleeps well.

I have given up trying to oust them and accepted it!!!!

I would keep breastfeeding but put him back in the cot everytime as he might actually be hungry as 6 months is still very young and milk should be the main source of food until they are one.

I find these things help.

I would ensure you put him in his cot for all daytime sleeps when you are at home.

Don't let him sleep past 3pm in the afternoon or go to bed before 7pm.

Ensure he gets at least 1 hour in the fresh air in the buggy after the last nap.

Have blackout blinds in your bedroom.

Make sure he is warm enough at night.

My dd wakes up at 530am and has a feed and then sleeps with me until 630 but I really like this.

he rarely sleeps during the day- never has. he's definately warm enough, and he's in a sleeping bag so can't wriggle out.

i did read the No Cry SS with DS1- i found some bits useful, like taking him off the breast when he slows down and putting him in bed.

i'll try putting him in his own bed everytime from tomorrow...although he won't be best pleased.

My ds was in our bed and waking up for breast feeds at ridiculous intervals (like very hour) at this age too. It got to the point when none of us was getting enough sleep or coping any more.

I'm afraid the only way I managed to get him into his cot was by getting mean!
I decided I was going to drop the night feeds completely - cold turkey and implement some controlled crying.

Within 1 week he was sleeping right through, and I was able to continue to breastfeed until we were ready to stop, without the resentment I had been feeling before.

I know these 'harsh' methods aren't for everyone, but it may be worth considering for the greater good.

i wouldn't be in favour of CC myself, plus it'd wake DS1 up.

i do need to get tough though- i keep half-trying, but then when i'm v tired, or he's especially cuddly, i can't be arsed.

I was gobsmacked that cc didn't wake my dd up!
It's not something everyone is comfortable with though so fair enough .
I know how your resolve crumbles in the face of another night in and out of bed! Good luck, hope you sort it soon.

I think CC would be a bit mean after 6 months of mummy's bed and boob every night, it would be a bloody shock to the wee fella

No help here I'm afraid. DS still feeds a lot and ends up in our bed (or else I go spare with sleep deprivation and DP wakes him up anyway when he goes to work).