Dogs and newborn babies

[Shanstraw9X]

I’m due my second child in November and the subject of dogs came up with my brother the other day as he has a very energetic 2 year old cockerpoo who jumps all over furniture and people , puts everything in his mouth e.g socks , shoes , toy cars . He also barges through doors if they’re shut. We usually all visit on the same day at my parents for family meal night once a week (we visit separately too) and they bring the dog which means my son Who is 8 has to put All of his toys away as he wrecks them or runs off with them, which isn’t a massive deal as my son is happy to play with dog toys with him .my mum has asked them for this one night a week once the baby is here for them not to bring the dog with them to family night just until baby is older and not so small which I feel is understandable as all dogs no matter how well trained can be unpredictable . However they took the hump and were offended that anyone let alone our parents would ask them that and have said they can’t respect this boundary as why should they leave them him at home. I’ve tried to keep out of this as its not my house but it’s because of my soon to be born child that this has been brought up . Any advice to help the situation would be helpful!

My family have dogs. Parents small old dog mostly sleeps. Sister 1 energetic small and bouncy young dog and sister 2 large energetic dog that doesn't realise he's a big dog.

My 4 yo likes my parents old dog but mostly just watches her sleep. Sister 1s dog she doesn't like when she's bouncy. Usually when we arrive or she arrives my daughter needs to be kept separate for 15-20 minutes whilst the dog calms down and then they play outside with a ball together outside with adult supervision. When the dog was younger we had to be careful around toys but now it's only when the dog is left in the house alone that they chew.
My daughter does not like sister 2s dog at all and they have to be kept in different room or the dog on a lead and held by my sister.

We have a dog free house. Occasionally my parents bring the old dog but we only accept it when they are doing us a favour and will be with us all day rather than an hour or two.
Sister 1s dog is there every week on my day off but usually for only an hour as we leave not long after the dog gets back from the dog walker.
Sister 2s dog is there infrequently and I get quite annoyed when they agree to dog sit on a day they know we are coming over. Last time we spent the day in the garden with my dad and my mum was in the house with the dog. He gets separation anxiety and has to be with a person at all time. My parents realised they can't have both the dog and my daughter at the same time and found him hard work for that stay and have suggested changes if they were to have him for any length of time again

It was covid when my daughter was a baby and she was 2 when she had regular time with the dogs. I do insist that her needs come first so if she's upset the dogs get put in the garden. I don't think it's unreasonable to have a short period without dogs and then do a test with each dog on its own and see the reaction of each dog and come up with a plan. We have different rules in place for each of the 3 dogs and they are flexible and at the core of each is the wellbeing of my daughter.