The ex and I have been seperated for several years and we have a kid together. The split up has taken its toll ,he thinks I am controlling him and I think he is controlling me and over the last 2 years it has become personal attacks against me - insulting what clothes my son wears, my relationships , my parenting techniques, how I should bring him up.
I have recently told him via text as from a certain date am I no longer able to drop my son off to his house 1 day a week as I don’t feel comfy anymore. This is due to me becoming ill with anxiety and having panic attacks as worry he will verbally be nasty but I cannot tell him this as I fear him . After texts escalated I then suggested 2 drop off alternatives to which he demanded I do my share , said that I gave no explanation and if I don’t sort it he will go legal .
As I fear communication with him I now just tell him changes to the parenting plan rather than asking his permission on his days because it will still cause an argument . He gets funny with me making changes but I say yes to everyone that he requests.I now worry he will use this against me and it is making me ill.