I don’t know if I’m expecting too much so I really need to ask.
my partner and I have been together 14 years, we both wanted a child. Now he pulls his weight at home with the parenting, does bedtime, cooks etc. plays with her.
we both work full time. But on the weekends or when we are both off, he will not come out with us. He’s not interested in going for walks, to the park, to the zoo, for lunch out, days out in general etc. so since our child has been a baby I have been going out alone which I’ve found tbh really hard, it’s nice having someone with you it makes things easier. If I don’t have friends or family to go out with it’s me and my dd.
At the weekends all he wants to do is go out to the football or watch it, pub with friends (this isn’t often so not an issue) or if he does take dd out, I feel like it’s only when he benefits like a day festival where there’s alcohol but this is so rare. we sometimes have the odd bbq in the summer, that’s the only thing we do all together outside the home. When I’ve really needed a break he’s taken her out for an hour on his own. But it’s not often.
we very rarely go out as a family and it’s really getting me down.
is this ok?? If I didn’t take her to all these places she’d rarely go out. He’s a hard worker and they are very close but I’m getting so fed up being the one who goes out alone, and feeling like the pressure is on me to do the soft plays etc, even though I don’t mind, but I feel jealous seeing parents out doing simple things like a walk with their child. I also feel he’s missing out on some lovely memories.
I’ve raised this countless times but he doesn’t see the issue so it doesn’t make a difference. He just doesn’t want to as he’s not interested.