Baby awake all night can't put her down

[LizzeyBenett]

So my 11 week old wakes up every time I put her down , she contact naps on me during the day as it’s the only way I can get her to sleep. I was letting her sleep on me during the night until she was in a deep enough sleep and then transferring her to her next to me but recently she has started getting very congested when sleeping on me more so at night so i was afraid to leave her too long. The result is we are both awake all night . Every time I tried to put her down she woke up . I even tried leaving her next to me in the bed she still woke up. I can’t do another night like that I was afraid to pick her up I was so tired thought I would drop her . How do I get her to sleep without being on me ? I have a Tahiti I've worn in the crib and a hot water bottle to warm it before I put her in neither seems to help , she hates being swaddled only makes things worse .

Currently going through this myself.

Have you got a snuzpod or similar where you can put the sides down?

Humidifier

Any gas? Bicycle motion with babies legs/gripe water

White noise/pink noise/hoover sounds etc. the tv if your desperate

Record yourself speaking and play that

Night light

Mobile from the ceiling

Too hot/too cold/ too bright

Calpol? If she's in pain

If she's in a baby grow and blanket try a sleeping bag, footless baby grow

Also try a later bedtime? And if your breastfeeding would you consider a bottle of formula for bedtime might get you a little sleep

If she's congested I'd try hoovering yours and her mattresses today and the floor and leave a window open in the daytime.

Have you tried using a T-shirt that DH/DP has worn as the sheet in the next to me? Babies are very sensitive to smell and if the bedding in the next to me is clean it may well be the trigger that wakes her.

Yes I literally take my Tahirt off from that day and put it in her crib but will definitely hoover and open the window thank you x

Are you a lone parent OP? Your T-shirt might not settle DD, you're better with a T-shirt from the other Parent, if they're around.

Ok never thought of this can I ask why ? Just that she is with me the most so assumed my Tshirt would be preferable

My daughter was like this. We coslept. I was so sleep deprived it was accidentally cosleep potentially dangerously because I fell asleep holding her or doing it deliberately and safely.

I had pnd and went into a mother and baby unit and we had to stop. They were supportive of cosleeping at home but couldn't recommend it on the ward in the single beds with plastic anti tear bedding which could cause overheating. This was at 10 months. After this time she could start the night in her cot and after the first wake up she came into bed with me.

She has severe silent reflux and multiple food allergies. Even though she's now 4 when they are troubling her she goes back to waking hourly and sleeping in my arms. She was 17 weeks when she was diagnosed and it made the previous 4 months slot into place. It might be worth looking into silent reflux.

How is she during the day? Can you put her down? Of yes, don't.
When I put down my babies during the day, they never slept during the night, only on me.
So I swaped- never put them to the cot during the day, and they slept all night in the cot.

She sleeps on me during the day can't put her down at all or she wakes

You usually smell of milk

In all honesty you need to cut the day time contact naps out or atleast down baby needs to get used to sleeping in cot, pram, moses basket etc and the only way that's gonna happen is if you reduce contact naps. Contact naps are a lovely bonding experience but not every nap needs to be contact.
So if she naps 4 times in a day I'd do 2 contact naps and 2 In moses basket she will wake and be unsettled so settle her again and back in moses basket it won't take long for her to adjust then hopefully night times will become easier.