Cannot deal with my child

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Mornings i wake up to being screamed at, tantrums, all day being told to go away, shouted at.

I do not deal well with noise and i am at the point of now wanting to go away and never come back.

I am becoming increasingly emotionally unstable with this and although i do not need to work am now considering going back full time just to get away from her. My relationship with my husband is almost nonexistent and strained because of a number of reasons but we cannot get time to talk as she shouts and interrupts anytime i try to talk to him.

I am feeling increasingly isolated, frustrated, guilty and depressed. Depressed esp as now i read she is testing to see if i love her and sometimes i just don't

How old is she OP?

I would go straight to the GP and ask for urgent help, health visitor if she's under 5.

Go back to work. Honestly we all had a much better relationship once mine was in nursery. We weren’t meant to raise kids the way we do now we were designed to raise children in groups.

I think you both need to go to the GP and explain everything.

I would put DD in a nursery and work. They will help her settle. Get some time to yourself. Not everyone thrives being with dc 24/7. It’s not a bad thing to work! Millions of women do!

The explosive child is a really good read. I read it when mine was small but it was still extremely helpful.

Advice depends on age really a teenager is dealt with differently to a toddler

Have you tried loop ear plugs to take the edge of the noise?

Sounds a lot like my DD who is autistic. It was very difficult between the ages of 2 & 3 as she would have multiple meltdowns a day, wake up screaming & just was very unsettled. She’s now 6 & it’s much easier although we still have challenges of course. As others have said how old is she? Definitely talk to the GP/ Health visitor although I found the HV useless I’m afraid.

You need help. Please see HV/GP

What are the consequences of this behaviour?

What are your boundaries?

How old is child?

Loop earplugs are great for taking off the edge of the screaming/loudness.

I do wonder those that say put her in nursery don't have the wait times we do. Both my children were down in waiting list for well over a year for a place.

I also think leaving dc in a safe place whilst having a tantrum works. Get away! Saying no when the noise starts. Reward good behaviour but don’t tolerate completely unacceptable behaviour.