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Do you think my son has adhd?

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OverdueFirstTimeMama · 25/08/2024 17:19

My son has just turned 4 and I’m really concerned with his behaviour.

he’s always been a ‘wild child’ and I’ve said since maybe the age of 2 I think he has adhd and I’ve always been told ‘he’s just a boy’ but the older he’s getting, the worse it’s getting.

He is SO loud, makes constant noise. Silly, annoying loud noises. It doesn’t matter how many times we ask him to lower the volume, he will continue to just be so so loud and silly. The noises he makes honestly make me grit my teeth it’s not fun laughter playing. He will ask questions, I will answer and he will ask me to tell him again and again and again.

He rolls round the floor, jumps, runs, doesn’t know how to sit still. He used to sit whilst I would read him a book and he can’t seem to even do that now. I don’t know how long he’s even meant to be able to concentrate at this age but he just seems to get a toy out, throw it on the floor after a few mins and gets a new one out. He never seems to actually play.

he is obsessed with spiderman. Not interested in anything else, just spiderman. He carries these little figures around all day every day and it feels like it’s all he talks about, all he wants to watch on the tele etc

he’s very rough and tumble, can be playing or at least sat semi calmly then just has a random outburst and will grab his little brother in a rough way for no reason.

im honestly at my wits end, I feel so guilty for saying it but there are days I feel like I don’t like him because he just does not listen. He is so so loud, so silly, I hate taking him anywhere because I get so embarrassed of how he acts.

he could get away with it when he was younger but he’s 4 now, surely this isn’t normal? He has cousins, friends etc the same age I don’t think they act the same way at all

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freespirit333 · 25/08/2024 19:12

How is he at nursery OP?

2sisters · 25/08/2024 19:18

He's 4. My girls 4 and 5 are exactly the same. Although, at school they are able to listen and follow instructions. At home not so much. I'm promised that it gets better but I'm still waiting.

Theleaveswillbefalling · 25/08/2024 19:32

How is he at nursery?
How much exercise does he get every day?

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bearcubb · 25/08/2024 19:36

Sounds the exact same as my soon who is 5 nearly 6 now and still the same! No issues at school though and they say he is 'normal'.

Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · 25/08/2024 19:41

I think it would be interesting to see how he is in an independent setting.

xyz111 · 25/08/2024 20:01

Sounds like my son was. He has ASD and adhd.

OverdueFirstTimeMama · 25/08/2024 20:06

Hi all, thanks for the replies.

in a previous setting when he was just turned 3 I was told ‘he’s on some sort of spectrum he can’t sit still, he’s got adhd’ in a joking tone.

He is now in preschool and got a glowing end of year report but have been told he can be rough at times

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freespirit333 · 26/08/2024 08:12

It does sound like a possibility OP but at 4 there’s not much you can do other than gather evidence for any referral if you seek a diagnosis in the future.

My 9 year old has ADHD, trying to think back to what worked parenting wise when he was 4! Just make sure your DS has LOADS of exercise, loads of opportunity to run around and be silly/loud. Praise him a lot, every little thing he does well, try and comment on it (you’re sitting nicely eating your lunch etc) and try not to constantly tell him off, hard I know and DH and I still struggle with this with our 9 year old.

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