Husband Prioritised Football over Crying Baby

[KD1988UK]

My husband doesn’t understand why I am upset and refuses to apologise.

For context he had surgery on Monday so can’t physically help with the baby at the moment so it is all on me (which I understand)

This afternoon, a football match was on and the aftermath commentary was on. Our baby had been asleep on me for 30 mins and then woke up crying and was hysterical for about 5 mins and I was trying to comfort him (he’s 3 months). I am clearly struggling to settle the baby…

My husband ignores the baby (and me) and instead turns the TV full blast. I asked him what he was doing and he said he couldn’t hear it because of the baby! So there we were, hysterical baby and the tv full blast! I was forced to leave the room and looking after the baby alone.

I am livid! He doesn’t understand why I am annoyed or what he did wrong!

Am I wrong?!

Knob behaviour from your husband but not something I could be bothered to be livid over.

What could he have done though? It doesn't take 2 people to deal with a crying baby

You were dealing with the baby. You could have got up and left the room the minute it started crying 'hysterically' to give them a change of scenery, walk about rocking them, etc.
He was watching the football and has had surgery. You've had 3 months to get used to a baby. It shouldn't take both of you. Was he supposed to turn the football off and both of you gaze in stricken panic at each other whilst the baby cried?

How do you think most women manage?

Turning the tv up full blast was unreasonable. That wont help the baby.

but getting up and moving the baby around, getting the milk, would have been more beneficial for the baby than staying sat watching tv.

He shouldn't have turned the tv louder.

But ref the baby crying - he couldn't do anything? You said it in the op he can't as he's had surgery. Plus you had the baby. What do you think he should have done?

Twat behaviour from the baby's father.

What did he think having a baby would look like?

Did he not want to become a father?

How would he feel if he was trying to comfort the baby and you turned up your favourite TV programme to full blast to drown them out?

Maybe let this one go as he is recovering, but keep an eye on this behaviour. If he is the kind of man who prioritises football over his family, you're on a hiding to nothing.

He could have put the subtitles on.
He does sound insensitive. It did seem a bit
Fuck you and the baby I need to hear this.

Blaring the telly when the baby is crying is no help to anyone.

Does your TV have a pause function. He could have paused it or recorded and then watched back when the baby was settled.