Pregnant with a toddler

[Lijay]

I'm 34 weeks pregnant and have a 22 month old. The past couple of weeks I'm really struggling to get DS out the house. He's going through a Phase of just wanting to stay home. Likely my fault for too much TV when I was basically bed bound with morning sickness. But he kicks and tantrums when I try to get his shoes on, and get him in his pram or car seat and I now physically can't over power him. What did others do? I don't like him being home all day. He sleeps so much better when hes had some fresh air and a run about. I feel better too but it's becoming impossible.
Do I just have to suck up the feeling guilty and earlier mornings and stay home or are there any tips or advice on how to handle a tantrum throwing 22 month old not wanting to leave the house?

Just to add he's with grandparents 3 days a week whilst I work and gets plenty of outdoor time ( obvs behaves like an angel with them)

do you have a garden? We bought lots of garden toys recently - a slide, sandpit etc so she gets a bit of climbing in.

I find generally that my daughter (25 months, I’m 32 wks preg) just needs time. I let her climb into the car herself, takes about 10 mins of up and down, but physically i can’t have a battle. With the pram it’s hit and miss. Sometimes it’s easier to Let her walk on the reins, but we have parks close by. She tends to be fine getting in the pram when she’s more tired. I also keep stickers in the car and snacks to encourage her to get in! Sometimes when she doesn’t want to go out I say it’s fine, other times we have to leave!

Thats pretty much the age when you have to employall your parenting trickery! My twins were that age when I was expecting DC4. Flipping frustrating.

I always felt like theybhad two conflicting urges - they ask to have more control, but they get out of control and upset quickly if you don't have boundaries. Give them choices when possible, and drop LOTS of hints so they have their head around things in advance e.g. "later, we will go to the library. What colour top will you want to wear for that, green or blue". "We're going to the library after breakfast, how much roast do you need to give you energy for that, one of two pieces?" "Which shows will you wear to go to the library?"

Be prepared to "let them win" in fantasy. "Oh, you want to stay home? Would you do that forever? Wow, what would we do if we stayed home all day?" (Start getting their shoes in while they talk...)

At that age mine definitely needed to be out for a good part of the waking day so I'd be persistent. I would just manhandle him into the buggy and get the traps on as quickly as possible, even when heavily pg there is lots of padding so no need to worry. After grumbling a bit he always got distracted once we were walking and enjoyed the activities we went to.

Once baby was born it got a lot harder to attend classes etc so really worth pushing through the difficulties to get him out as much as possible now.

Thank you, it's not so much the worry of him kicking the bump. It's more my back and the physical exhaustion that stops me being able to man handle him like I used to. He's quite big and I'm quite small.
We do have a garden. I'll definitely try get him in there more. It's not big but it's outside and in the fresh air. I really wish I had some parks in his walking distance but they are over a mile away. Fine for me to walk but I can't carry him now if he gets too tired. Today I've given up for this morning - he naps around 11:30 anyway. But I'm determined to go out this afternoon. It's no good for either of us to sit about all day! Just feels like a daily battle at the moment and I feel guilty for not being able to do more with him.